Mood Swings

Hi Mariana!

That is beyond normal so definitely don't feel bad. You are NOT alone! I've had a few bad days where I just wanted to cry because I just couldn't even get anything straight. It wasn't necessarily the planning itself but it was saving money for deposits and then life throwing a curve ball! I've definitely been moody especially the last few days because I just wasn't hearing from my venue for almost a week.

I was calling and emailing and nothing but I also had to remember they have days off, they have vacations and I'm not the only person on their agenda. Sometimes we just need to take a break ourselves. I hope everything turns around for you and if you feel like this again, just take deep breaths and focus your energy elsewhere.

I felt the same way leading up to my wedding. Planning a wedding is very stressful and its takes a lot out of you. I took a break at one point from planning because of stress. You just need a day or two with no wedding planning. Take some fun time with you and your fiance. Good luck!!!

Totally normal. The stress of wedding planning can bring out lots of different emotions. Take some time for yourself and don’t do anything wedding related for a few days and hopefully that will reenergize you.

We all have those days, and it's okay! There's nothing wrong with you. Take some time for yourself and try to relax

It’s funny - 2 weeks ago I was having random panic attacks, not about marrying my FH - but just how much still had to be done.
Lately I’ve been feeling a lot more at peace. The “to do” list is still there, but it’s getting shorter. I’m really trying to enjoy the last few weeks of wedding planning - before I was counting down the weeks & couldn’t wait for the wedding (which I still can’t wait - but I’m trying to enjoy the process as I know it’s almost over).

I think I was mostly nervous and excited but I think it's normal to feel many things since it's a stressful time

I am a little less than 3 months out and I feel this. I have some days where all I want to do is work on the wedding and I'm excited about everything. Then I have days where I am so sick of stressing about song choice, the amount of alcohol to buy and what time I should get my hair done. It seems like so much planning and stress and MONEY goes into just ONE day and sometimes it's just overwhelming and I just kind of shut down. I think what you're feeling is normal.

View Quoted Comment You just hit me with the alone mentioning because I have been feeling alone and completely lonely recently. I've had entire days where even droping a pencil makes me cry my eyes out and I just get in bed and won't move for the whole day. Thank you for those words. I hope everything with your venue turned out okay and back on track ❣

View Quoted Comment We were just talking about how we've dedicated everything to the wedding and to our normal lives that it's been long since we both got out and enjoyed ourselves, our money, each other and life. We sure are thinking about taking a day or two, you're completely right. Thank you ❣

View Quoted Comment Yesterday I took sort of like a home made spa day by myself since my FH was at the gym and doing some things. I felt super good at the end, but not enough to continue working on the wedding. I think I'll take today too to reenergize myself because these are definitely feelings I didn't expect or know how to manage yet. Thank you ❣

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much ❣ Hopefully everything will fall on place.

View Quoted Comment You've made such a huge point right now, I feel you on so many aspects. I normally have anxiety or panic attacks (yes both) when there's a big crowd or too much preassure. Late June I was working at a restaurant with absolutely no help or assistance for staff whatsoever, people could be rude and humiliate you and they wouldn't even budge. That's when my crisis started, the hard and horrible ones that made me quit in the first place. Those attacks are two of the main things I honestly don't wish upon ANYONE, and I'm so sorry you experienced or are experiencing this!!! I think I've missed a huge bullet point you just said about enjoying the process since it's almost over and you changed my view completely. I'll try my best to look at this last month the same way as you and try to make the best of it, enjoy and have fun throughout it all. Thank you so so much ❣ Best wishes and hope those attacks turn around and leave us alone, because they're not welcomed 🙅🏻‍♀️

View Quoted Comment I was excited, nervousness is still there. But the excitement vanished to a more worrying phase where I just can't bring myself to finish anything. Thank you ❣

View Quoted Comment You said it girl! The money has me pulling my hair out. We managed to plan a short ceremony/wedding but just with our families (ye we're including jids since we're really close to all of them) we got to 100. No catering, my family's cooking. No wedding planner, my cousin is planning budget free. No arrival car, suits or ties, no first look, no cocktail hour, no formal attire, no veil, no high cost accesories or decor, friends helping and cooperating and some of them working for free as their gift to us and I STILL MANAGED TO EXCEED THE $2,000 AND COUNTING. I mean, how? When? Where? Some days I wake up and finish EVERYTHING wedding related for the day, others I just suck at even connecting my glue gun. It's helpful to know it's normal what I'm feeling and that I'm not the only one. I'm exactly one month out for the big day and haven't realized yet. Best wishes and hope everything falls into place sooner than later ❣

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Absolutely! Our wedding is just family, close friends and coworkers and our current guest list is around 180 people. We haven't sent invites out yet so I have no idea how many will actually RSVP but our guest list definitely just kept growing. We are also including kids. We have a lot of kids in the family and are close to all of them so I couldn't imagine not inviting them to the wedding. We are cutting costs where we can but our total is upwards of $12k (including honeymoon) and that's so stressful sometimes. My fiance has a really good job and so it's doable for us, but sometimes it just feels like we are never going to get everything paid for in time! I'm sure I'm just going to remain a ball of stress for the next 3 months. Lol.

View Quoted Comment Don't worry, that'll make us 2 in stress then!! But as Kelly said, let's make the best of enjoying the last of this process ❣

View Quoted Comment I'm definitely having those days! Just remember to take a step back and breathe for a little bit. Clear your head and unwind. And everything with my venue turned out fine. They finally got back to me. Thanks! Hopefully its smooth sailing from here. Not just with the venue but all the vendors so fingers crossed!