Money Tree

It's both tacky and rude. Your guests aren't going to arrive with a pocket full of money in hopes that you'll conveniently have somewhere to put it. It will be in an card or in the form of a check. This also makes it extremely easy for people to steal. Please don't panhandle at your wedding.

Just don't register for gifts and you should be good. Definitely refrain from having anything out at your wedding that directly asks for money.

As above. Guests who want to give you money, will do so by bringing a card with a check or cash.

Having a money tree soliciting more money from people who have already brought a gift would not be "genius". It would start with"g" though.

Absolutely agree with Caytlyn.... It is indeed both tacky & rude -- DEFINITELY NOT "GENIUS"! Have a small registry or none at all, and most guests will likely give you a cash gift in their card. And, if guests don't give you the monetary gift you want, a money tree, wishing well or dollar dance are not likely to incentivize them hand you cash at the wedding.

So tacky to ask for money

Another NOT genius idea: honeymoon fund

Extremely tacky!!! Please don't do this.

I may be the oddball out here. We're doing a honeyfund for our wedding instead of a registry because we literally have everything we need. You know the people at your wedding better than anyone in the forums. If YOU believe that it's a good idea and that it would be received well at YOUR reception, then I say go for it. I've found that mentioning anything about honeyfunds or money as gifts is not taken well in the forum.

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree with you. I see nothing wrong with doing a honeyfund. We are paying for our wedding by ourselves. We can't invest thousands like these other people can. I'm making the majority of stuff myself. I know my friends and family will see it as positive. So I'm doing it. I hope your honeyfund goes well and your wedding is spectacular!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I wish the same for you!

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Using that logic, if all your friends drive Lamborghinis and you can't afford one you think it would be alright to ask friends and family to buy you one? I don't think so. You either buy the car you can afford or you save up for the one you want; same for a wedding.

Asking people for money is always considered tacky and rude. People know that cash makes a good gift without you needing to ask for it. Like pps have explained if you don't register and you don't beg for it (with a honeyfund, money tree, tip jar, etc.) then your guests will more than likely be very generous and gift you money in a card. Outright asking for cash will always come off as money grubbing which is never a good look.

Unfortunately, it's tacky and rude to ask for money at all. When people come to your wedding, they will already know if they plan on giving you a gift, money, or no gift at all. They will bring the gift or put money in a card prior to coming. So they won't need to be reminded you want money.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this - I know that honeyfunds generally aren’t taken well on this forum but I don’t mind them at all and honestly usually donate if a couple has that as an option. I think this GREATLY differs from money trees, though. The money tree idea is horrible and rude and I would be so shocked to see this as a guest. If you want cash, don’t register for anything.

View Quoted Comment What's the difference between a honeyfund fund a money tree? None.

I'd probably give this the side-eye at a wedding. If you don't need gifts, don't register for gifts. Put a card box on a table and that's it.

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Its literally the exact same thing except one has pretty pictures.

What the heck is a money tree? Is it just something for people to put cards on or is it something for people to attach money to?? The former sounds fine, and the latter sounds bizarre. If people want to give money as a gift, they put it in a card. They’re not walking around with Just a fifty dollar bill in their pocket, so I don’t get it unless you’re hoping people give you extra money, which seems very presumptuous.
Also, there’s a good chance money would get stolen.

Putting the concept of a honeyfund aside, because that's another beast that I'm not going to talk about today...

Guests who have intended to give you money, will have it in a card already, and I would feel very awkward trying to clip money to a tree in front of a lot of people. What if someone pins a $100 bill up there and all someone else can give you is $20? It will make people uncomfortable. It also feels like a gross display of what people have given you, and is more likely to be stolen since it's out in the open. I'd just let people use a card box.

Rude. I would not “donate” to anything blatantly asking for money. I may give a gift but that this is just a bad idea

I would be a little offended by a money tree. Chances are I’ve already bought you a gift for your shower, and put money in a card, and it would look to me like what I’ve already done isn’t enough and you want more. Skip the money tree.