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Savvy October 2014

Money tree/ honeymoon shower

Ariana, on March 13, 2014 at 12:27 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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So I have read a lot of negative posts about money tree or honeymoon showers, but would like some advice on etiquette for them.

My fiance and I have been living together 2 years now and as part of his job will be moving (to where we aren't sure yet, his contract says anywhere in North America) shortly after the wedding. That being said we would rather not have physical gifts we would have to move across country and would prefer building up a downpayment for a house and having extra funds to help set us up where ever we may end up.

Clearly we don't just want to demand money from our friends and relatives, but we would like to let them know that though we appreciate the thought of gifts, if they did want to give us something it would be so very helpful for our future to be able to have some money saved for when we move and we may not be able to bring lots of gifts etc. Which is why I want to do a moneytree shower, but forums seem to be very critical of them. Advice?

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Latest activity by Future Mrs. Pichon, on March 13, 2014 at 5:10 PM

Master October 2013
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There isn't etiquette for them because they are rude. You can't do a rude thing really politely.

If you prefer cash gifts, then don't register, or have a very small physical registry. People will get the hint. If people ask you or your parents (or FI/FILs) where you're registered, they can say "They are just so excited everyone can come, but they're saving for a down payment on a home!" and it can spread via word of mouth.

If you do not want any physical gifts, you shouldn't have any shower. The purpose of a shower is physical gifts to set the bride's household up.
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Master August 2013
OMW · on March 13, 2014 at 4:58 PM
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Didn't you already post this earlier? I remember commenting on it.
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Devoted May 2015
Sarah and Lindsey · on March 13, 2014 at 4:59 PM
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^^^^^^This.

And make sure your small registry is somewhere with a good return policy.
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Master September 2014
LadyMonk · on March 13, 2014 at 5:03 PM
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Spread, when asked, by word of mouth that you may be moving soon so your preference would be for a non-physical gift; and have a small registry with physical items for the people who don't believe in cash gifts.
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Master February 2015
LetItSnow · on March 13, 2014 at 5:08 PM
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I agree. Just have your BM or family spread the word.
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Super September 2014
Future Mrs. Pichon · on March 13, 2014 at 5:10 PM
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This does seem like a duplicate post....
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