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Skye
Just Said Yes October 2019

Money guilt

Skye, on October 5, 2019 at 4:35 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
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Wedding is tomorrow and I am so excited and feeling many different things right now, one of which is guilt about money. Both my mom and my FH’s parents gave us $2000 plus some, with us covering the difference. We also requested cash to put towards our honeymoon in lieu of gifts from our guests( our apartment is so small and we really don’t need anything else). I realized shortly after that asking for cash is taboo and may get me some judgement. Now I am feeling so guilty for asking/accepting money, even though I am incredibly grateful. Anyone have this feeling as well?

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Latest activity by Alexandria, on October 8, 2019 at 11:34 AM
  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
    MOB So Cal ·
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    With the wedding tomorrow, I think it's too late for regret to do you much good. I'd just do all you can to be thankful for whatever you are given. If there's been "damage" done, all you can do now is implement "damage control," by expressing genuine, heartfelt gratitude for the love and support your friends and family have demonstrated, and any and all gifts. Write timely, personalized thank you notes. If in hindsight you regret anything, just make a commitment to not do something similar in the future. Good luck & happy wedding day!

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  • Skye
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Skye ·
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    This was very helpful. Thank you!!
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  • Miosotys
    Dedicated January 2020
    Miosotys ·
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    NOPE! I am doing the same. Now a days a lot of couples have it all when it comes to the house basics. I’ve been to 4 weddings. 3 out of the 4 asked for cash in lieu of gifts. It was SO MUCH easier for me as a guest. I am doing the same but writing this message on our registry “because home renovations and dream vacations aren’t exactly sold in stores, we have opted for newlywed cash fund”.
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  • Miosotys
    Dedicated January 2020
    Miosotys ·
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    Also people are ALWAYS going to find one thing to gossip on. Let it go, enjoy your day, and congrats ❤️
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Don't feel bad Smiley smile people would likely give you money anyway. Cash is a common wedding gift
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  • Da Mom
    August 2022
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    You shouldn’t feel guilty accepting gifts from your parents. We contributed to all our kid’s weddings because we wanted to. Now asking for cash from guests is another story. When I see honeyfunds and all that jazz on invites and websites these days, I just roll my eyes and write a check like I’ve done for over 30 years.

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  • Cassi
    Super October 2019
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    This exactly! I received lots of gifts at my shower and just from people asking that won't come to the wedding BUT we have also received a lot of cash gifts from people not coming and we are expecting to receive more when the wedding day comes (5 days). Congrats on your wedding (as it has since passed)!!1

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  • Amanda
    Master December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    I wouldn't worry about it! Whats done is done and people won't give if they don't want too so they won't regret it. Enjoy your wedding!!
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  • Aimee
    Super July 2021
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    Just remember, these are people that care about you both and know that you all live together. Personally, I would prefer money over tons of physical items that you would not use.

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  • D.k.
    Savvy April 2020
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    I wouldn’t sweat it. I’d much rather give cash than a crummy gift they don’t really need or want. Both of my nephews got $200 from us and I still didn’t think it was enough. Enjoy your day. Don’t have regrets. Those who know you enough... know that you’re not tacky. Those who still think it’s tacky must not know your heart. Big breath.... big exhale.... and go get yourself hitched! 💕
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    Dedicated October 2019
    Alexandria ·
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    We put this on our website:

    Our life together has already begun,

    and we have almost everything under the sun.

    The most important gift to us is having you share in our special day,

    but if you wish to contribute in some other way,

    we would love a few pennies to put in our pot,

    to save for our future after tying the knot!

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