Money gifts

Definitely don't include it in the invitation, that's a rule for all registries cash or not. If you don't register, people will generally take the hint to give cash or checks.

Gifts are never mentioned on invites.
Just dont register and people will get the hint..
We had a small registry for anybody who wanted to give us an actual gift but walked away with lots if gifts AND tons of cash.

We just didn’t register anywhere so people gave us cash, checks or gift cards.

We registered at 3 places for our two couples showers. Everything was purchased off those and at the wedding everyone gave cash or check in a card. We didn’t mention it anywhere.

I had a honeymoon fund so that made it kind of obvious I wanted money

Just don't register at all and don't have a shower at all. People will get the hint!

Just don't register - that's a pretty huge and unsubtle (but perfectly polite) cue to give cash or checks. No shower if you don't want physical gifts.

You don't mention money as gifts, ever. There are thousands of "wishing well" poems on Pinterest and they are all horrid. Please no.

I agree with the others, don't register. I would just make sure you have a card box next to the guest book

We made a registry with separate cash funds with titles like, "couples massage" and you can even make a contribution type thing where people can contribute whatever they want to a larger sum. We separated stuff in our honeymoon: nights in a hotel, universal studio tickets, plane tickets, vacation dinner, etc...

Lol Asian culture it’s appropriate to give money, not gifts so I don’t think it’s rude. It’s a cultural thing. I’ve seen registries and monetary gift donations to the couple done.

I’m planning on setting up a honeymoon fund. I know WW generally hates that, but I don’t. Had like 80% of weddings I attended have that option and it was easy for me to give them a money gift online whether or not I was going to their wedding.

God. Ive seen so much back and fourth negativity with this, I thought I would share my personal thoughts. We are making one of our step cards, inside the invitation, titled Gifts. Below that, is a “Home and Family Fund” under that, it says “The bride and groom kindly request no boxed gifts of gift cards.” Then we added “A Note from the Bride and Groom... This is simply all we truly want or need besides eachother. Please, don’t trouble yourself with shopping, or wrapping. Whatever amount you would go out and spend on a gift, we graciously request to send this way.

If you’re reading this, you are a special presence in our lives and we are elated that you’ll hopefully be joining us on our wedding day. We are beyond appreciative for your love, support, and any contribution towards our Home and Family Fund. We’re looking forward to being able to have an official nest, so that we may soon grow our family.” Our invites are formal and elegant so it looks very tasteful and put together.

Look, it’s a completely different day and age. Most couples now, already live together premaritally and already have dishes, cookware, bedding, etc. A LOT are living in apartments or smaller residences and they can’t yet afford a house or to feel financially stable enough to start a family and definitely don’t have the room to store more things. I know that is us and so many others we know! Why not request what you actually want or need? I believe it’s rude for the couple to expect gifts. On the other hand, I also believe it’s rude to show up to a wedding for someone you love, respect, or appreciate without having contributed something. Whether it be your ultimate support & friendship, a service you’re able to give, your time, assistance, or a gift. At one time or another, or for the event itself to help them out. I personally have never shown up at a wedding without having contributed as much as I could. I’m a hair and makeup artist and trust me, I do everything I can to hook my friends and family up. When I was 21 I had no money to give. (34 now wedding planning) I was bridesmaid to my friend and slept in the same bed with her the night before the wedding which completely helped her anxiety. I finagled a cute, purposeful safety pinned look for her dress that ripped 5 minutes before her fancy rehearsal dinner, and did her makeup and helped her artists with her hair. If I’m not doing stuff like that, I always give monetarily. The feed back is, they always appreciate it SO MUCH. I think being turned off by any bride and grooms request for gifts is petty. If you can actually be offended by that then ask yourself is it them or is it you? Maybe you’re jealous you didn’t do the same and just come out with it. Maybe you actually don’t have $50-100 to give, and that’s OK! ... but they obviously appreciate you in their lives enough to include and pay to include you on the biggest day of their lives, so what else might you be able to offer to them that they would really appreciate? Ask yourself, if it was you, would you honestly want a 50 dollar ninja blender or 50 dollars? Because even if that blender was a priority in your life, you now have 50 dollars to go buy it. Or maybe you’d prioritize differently on a whim. It’s the freedom that is the biggest blessing. If it was your own wedding what would you want/need/appreciate most? Why is it ok to register for a bunch of stuff that costs money but “rude” to ask for money? Why do people do things like a money dance?? Or a honeymoon fund? And that’s considered ok? Which it totally is! Literally guys and gals, it is YOUR wedding and it YOUR LIFE. You do you. State what you want in an honest, sincere way. Etiquette is what you make it. You set the tone. If people don’t like it, then oh well. Hopefully they’ll at least have a blast and will have amazing memories and pictures. Being a bride or groom is hard. Personally, we don’t have any financial support going into this. We are doing it on our own, and his family being huge, Guestlist 300. Original guestlist 550. But we both really knew we would be sad if we looked back, and never had this special day to share with each other and the special people in our lives. It is your life. People will always judge or criticize something no matter what. The real ones will understand. I hope more people will openly ask for monetary contributions. It is modern. If makes sense. It’s simple. It’s most easy on the guest also. At the end of the day it’s what most of us want or need so why be fake? Pride and traditional etiquette might say it’s rude but we have evolved. We don’t live in 1950 anymore. Anyway, I really am passionate about this and honestly, I hope this helps some wayward brides and grooms along if they’re on the fence. Do it, don’t look back. I wish someone would’ve written this for us to see. Cheers and happy planning, you got this

Do not mention gifts, especially not in your invitation. And most particularly don't mention money in any form anywhere and that includes the dread Honey Fund which takes a percentage and sends you a check--no "experience" involved.