Money gift request

I don't think there is a polite way to ask for a gift (cash or otherwise) and definitely not with the invitation. I would just do a small registry (if you plan on having a shower) or no registry at all. Your guests will then figure out that what you want is cash.

There is no polite way since you should not be requesting any gift at all on your invitation. People will give you what they give you. If the gift isn't cash and you don't like or need it, return it.

You don’t request anything when you send out invitations. Even if you have a registry that should never be included on an invitation. People know how to give cash/checks at weddings.

I think if you simply don’t have a registry and set up a “honey moon fund” that is acceptable. There are so many couples now who live together for before getting married so it’s a very normal thing to not request a gift. I think you could put on your invite, “if you would like the contribute to our honeymoon fund, here is the link” or something like that. Don’t feel pressured to make a registry for no reason. I think people will understand. The only people who really like to give a tangible gift are like immediate family and grandparents. If you just explain that you simply have everything you need and just want to have the honeymoon of a lifetime, that is fine.

There is no polite way to ask for money. Just have a small registry, or no registry, and people will get the picture. Most people don't give physical gifts for weddings anyways, that's mainly just for showers.

Thank you. I completely worded that wrong. Thank you everyone for your input

No polite way. Just set up a small registry because some older people like bringing a physical gift. Everyone knows to give money.

There is no polite way to ask for money. Just don't register, and people will give cash or checks or gift cards if they are okay with it anyway. In my experience, people prefer to give physical gifts but will give cash when there is no registry.

If you type in "poem for asking for money for wedding gift" into google you will find a bajillion little poems.

If you have a wedding website you can put it on there. If you truly are not going to have a registry and no wedding website (they take all of two seconds to make on the knot I know) you could print out one of these little poems to put in the invite.

It may not be polite to most, but I received a poem for money and was not offended by it. I also received an invite with no registry info and sent fiance to ask him and he said they have none, just $50 in cash would suffice. Do what you feel is right!

My fiance and I live together but I cannot wait to get all new kitchen supplies and that's about it, no bedding or towels, etc. We will pack up the hand-me-down kitchen items for safe keeping when our future children go away to college!

There is no polite way. Just don't register, and people will get the hint. I recommend setting up a very small registry however. Some people will give you a physical gift no matter what, and unless you want them to pick with NO guidance at all, you are better off to pick a few things that you can at least use. And everyone can use some new towels, sheets, a few kitchen items, whatever. You can do one on Amazon and add literally anything, it doesn't have to be house stuff.

Thank you everyone but I worded this wrong and can't delete the form. Thank you but no need to reply anymore 😘

1. You never ask for a gift of any kind. Even when you have a registry, it is disseminated by word of mouth or on your website, not on your invitations, to make it clear that it's to help those who want to give you a gift know what you'd like, not to suggest that people give you gifts in the first place.

2. If what you want is money, you just don't have a registry. If anyone asks, you say, "We really have all the physical things we need, and are just saving up for a [honeymoon/house/whatever]." But if they don't ask, they will likely give you money anyway.

The reason you don't ask for money goes back to #1. A registry is supposed to be to help those who want to give you a gift know what you'd like. I can absolutely guarantee that your guests already know you like money, because everyone does. Thus, there is no way to ask for money that doesn't involve asking people to give a gift, rather than just telling those who already want to give a gift what you like.

My fiancée and I have joked about this, because we're in a similar situation - but it was only ever a joke. Some people will give cash, but straight up asking for it is just plain tacky.

We were against a registry at first because it felt awkward to make a list and tell people to buy us things off of it. Like most modern couples, we've already lived together for a while, and consolidated and upgraded our belongings. Anything we'd put on there is a want, not a need. The things we haven't upgraded aren't things you'd give as a wedding gift (a new oven, for instance, or an armchair).

Cassie, My Fh and I added a cute poem on our website under registry like so...

As we’re getting married we thought it would be fun,
To move into a brand new home — we need to get it done.
As wedding gifts are bulky and we’re a little short on space,
Some money would be the ideal gift to help us buy our place!

Not everyone will agree on something like this but choose something that will fit your crowd.

We're in the same boat. We have a small registry of things we can update but we have a registry through Zola and they have group cash funds that you can make so people feel like they are giving you funds for something... We have a fund for like plane tickets, and cooking classes and a rainy day fund

Just dont register, people will know to give cash.

Asking for money is rude. Asking by way of an allegedly "cute" jingle just makes it worse.

View Quoted Comment This exactly. The only time you ever mention wanting money for a gift is if someone calls you up personally, or writes, and asks you, what would you like? Or, are you saving up for anything, where a gift from us would help? You can make your wishes known to your parents, and bridal party. If anyone asks them what you would like, they can mention anything from your wish list, including that you would like to travel or save for something. You should turn down any offers for a shower in your honor, if you do not want any gifts. Without gifts, if you want to socialize, friends may throw a luncheon or tea ( light supper) or evening party, not referred to as a shower. Have fun, celebrate. People will just send one gift, often bigger at wedding time, if no shower. . The key to etiquette here is, it is rude for you to tell people that you want a gift or money, if you initiate it. If someone wants to know, they will do the asking, and you can tell them. Gifts are supposed to be chosen by the giver, not the recipient.