Money gift etiquette

Yes a card box at venue in reception or cocktail room.

Holly you already have that from your guest list.

Got it, thank you.

Usually a card box or birdcage. You can go on pinterest or etsy and check out different styles. Make sure you get one that locks. You will most likely get cards with cash and cheques. I usually give cash only because I don't have cheques.

Kathryn- I meant if she just wanted to write thank yous to those she got a card from. The address bit was silly as I doubt they'll write their address on a card they bring to the wedding, haha.

We're using a mailbox with a sign that says CARDS. I wouldn't expect any certain amount. Some couples will give $100/ea, you may have a family of four that gives $100 total. It just depends on the people and their varying life situations. 99.9% of people will have a card so you know who gifted what and absolutely personalized thank yous (:

I would still suggest making a small registry. You are going to have some guests who prefer a physical gift as opposed to cash. Also, you may have guests who have limited finances. I am sure they would feel more comfortable giving a physical gift valued at $40, instead of placing $40 in a card.

@BeachDreams - I think it depends on where you are from. I have never been to a wedding where physical gifts are given at the actual wedding.

Beachy- I don't see the different. They will know you know the gift was $40, you picked it after all.

You never ask for monetary gifts ever.

I'm with @Beach: I wouldn't give money either. If a bride doesn't register, we're both screwed. I don't give money as gifts; when that happens, I pick something very traditional (usually stemware or a cheeseboard) and hope for the best.

Ugh, here we go again.

I've never been to a wedding where I've seen physical gifts - they're all cards. Physical gifts at the shower and if there isn't a shower then I'm giving you even more cash at the wedding.

We are inserting a thin paper in our invitation that says this:

We are sending out this invitation
In hope you will join a celebration
But if a gift is your intention
May we take this opportunity to mention
We have already got a kettle and toaster
crockery, dinner mats and matching coasters
So rather than something we’ve already got
We would appreciate money for our honeymoon pot
But most importantly we request
That you come to our wedding as our guest.

You don't ask for cash at all, and you definitely don't write your bank account number anywhere! In fact, you shouldn't mention gifts at all. Just do not register. People who are inclined to give you money will then give you a card with cash or a check in it. People who never give money as presents will either not give you a gift or will give you something that they pick out for you. If you want to give those types of people some direction you can have a very small registry with a few items on it, which will still get across the point that you don't need or want much and that money would be an excellent present for you. But it's gauche to ask for money, including registering for money.