Money Dance vs. Honeymoon Fund Jar

I think anything that asks guests for money at a wedding is rude/in poor taste. But, it just wouldn't go over well in my circle. Here's what everyone will tell you: it really depends on your friends and what is typically done at weddings in your circle.

Ditto exactly what stacy a. said.

Honestly I think the money dance is a better idea them a jar! That's like begging for money.

I think maybe a discreet honeyfund registry or just have a card box for people to drop cards or money into. - ditto Stacy

I saw an idea where you put 2 jars our and one is for the bride and the other is for the groom. Each jar represents who gets smashed in the face with wedding cake. So if the groom's jar has more money you get to smash him in the face and vice versa. You have to be willing to get cake in the face though! But the money that is put in goes towards the honeymoon!

We are doing the money dance. It's very common here. However our money is being donated to children's hospital cleft craniofacial unit. Our son Timmy was born with a bilateral cleft lip and had surgery there for repair. I want to give another child without Insurance that chance. We have brochures for it and dj will announce. That's an idea if people want you too

I wanted to do both since we don't have the money for a honeymoon, and can use all the money we can get. But will PROB do the dollar dance!

I saw the honeymoon jar on Pintrest and thought it was a good idea. I was thinking of doing it.

Both of our families have said we HAVE to do the dollar dance. The money part of it makes me a bit uncomfortable, but apparently its tradition and important to them...so looks like we will be going with it. I am happy it will give me a change to talk to/spend time with a lot of people.

Rarely seen in my neck of the woods. I understand that the dollar dance is very often a cultural tradition that everyone loves; still, it's your wedding in many respects and if it makes you cringe, don't do it.

And honestly, the cake smashing voting thing? No way.

Ugh people always shove their own ideas down other peoples throats about weddings. My bridesmaids are trying to get me to do a garter dance/toss, and I absolutely don't want to nor does my FH. Do whatever you feel is more you

I think either is fine! The nice thing about a money dance is you get a chance to spend time and have a short dance with a lot of your guests... So everyone who wants to feels like they spoke to you one on one. The downside is it could take 45mins to an hour to get through people... You spend so much on the reception you might be losing more money than you're getting on the dance by taking up the time. Plus, it sometimes gives people the chance to leave!

Honeymoon jar is kinda tacky. Never seen it at a wedding. I at least understand the money dance. That is a catholic thing.

I think honeymoon jar is tacky. Even if next to an open bar.

I am not a fan of either, I agree with Stacy A.

My sister just got married and as her MOH I had to collect all the money during her dollar dance, and it was just so awkward and tacky, I had guests getting mad at me because some of them got longer dances then others and they "paid" to dance.....it was just awful! And then at the end I had this big stack of ones, that honestly wouldnt get you that far on your honeymoon (I think they might have made $20 total), so I say just skip it and keep it classy!

Although I think if it was for donations that would be a little different, I actually really like that idea if your going to do it! You would probably get more people to do it too!

I think the jar is super awful, TBH with you. Sorry. Especially by the bar, people might assume they're tipping the bartenders. Or it will seem like you're expecting people to pay you back for their drinks even though it's technically an open bar and it could get awkward. IMO it's the equivalent of setting out a jar next to the "open cake" or the "open dinner" table. Just say no.

The dollar dance is a cultural/regional thing though. I see it at weddings back home, mostly Czech/Polish weddings. Some people REALLY get into it - one of my friends is Czech and her uncle is an auctioneer, he actually emceed the dollar dance and people went crazy. So if that's normal in your circle I'd go for it. But if it's not something that most of your guests are expecting, it can get awkward like Melissa said. Just know your crowd.

At least the dollar dance is a cultural thing. The honeymoon fund jar is tacky IMO.

Correction - the Money Dance (dollar dance) is NOT a Catholic thing.

and what is up with the cake smashing votes. No friggin' way.

Love the 2 jars and cake idea! That is awesome!!!

Love the 2 jars and cake idea! That is awesome!!!