Money Dance during covid era

We are just doing a honeymoon fund jar. It will be at the gift table. They don’t have to give to us but we always have family members who just show up to celebrations and try to hand us cash. We are skipping the dollar dance as well.

Money Dances were only popular with our culture, so I get it.


I’ve seen it done a couple of ways over the years to include dropping money in purse, hat, or other collecting vessel. After the money dance we’d still pass around the vessel to collect more

Start telling close family and friends now that there won’t be a money dance and it everyone will find out via word of mouth. Guests will put their cash gifts in cards.

You could still chat, across a high top table, <no touching> for one song amount of time. Like speed dating type, because during the $1 dance you are usually chatting anyway. ?

Maybe a 50/50? Definitely a "know your audience" thing, just like the dollar dance. Then it could be fun for your guests, too. And if the right person wins, they might just give you the whole thing, Lol.

I do understand that this is expected in your family/culture. But since everyone will understand why you cannot do a money dance currently, I wouldn't try to replace it with a new thing that people won't be expecting/might be confusing/won't be as successful. Anyone who shows up wanting to give you money for your honeymoon on top of their gift can just hand you money or put extra money in the card or gift they are already going to give you.

What about passing a jar around while people dance at their table or in their seat ? Dancing is allowed at seats and tables I believe...

View Quoted Comment Oh that’s a great idea! Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Yes definitely a cultural thing. Thank you for the great suggestions!

View Quoted Comment That’s a good idea. And I do see that money dances are starting to fade away and guests will just give cash as a wedding gift in a card. Thank you!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for that suggestion!

View Quoted Comment Haha cool! Thanks for the fun idea

View Quoted Comment Yeah that makes sense! Because I am seeing money dances starting to fade and guests are now just giving cash in cards as a wedding gifts since most guests will bring a registry gift during the bridal shower. That’s what I’ve been doing actually.

View Quoted Comment Haha I just had a vision of being in church passing around the offering basket. Thank you for the suggestion

I understand completely how you feel! I didn't even think of doing the money dance until my mom brought it up! I had to explain what it is to my FH because it's a tradition in my family but, nonexistent in his.

I really like the idea of doing the speed dating thing. Though you could dance 6 feet apart as well the only thing would be having to have the music turned down a little bit so that you can talk to each other. I don't know what could work but, it is an option.

Hey there, so can you help my ignorance of a Money Dance??? I have no clue what that is and it was on my DJ sheet we skipped it because we didn't know what it was. If I'm correct you can do a Honeymoon Fund next to your Card Box.

View Quoted Comment So LONG ago, the tradition was that guests would line up and have the opportunity to dance with the bride and groom and they would pin (yes pin) money onto their dress/suit. My cousin who got married 14 years ago did it that way! lol. But nowadays, no one wants their expensive dress or nice suit with a bunch of tiny holes, so the bride and groom will hold a bag or something and the guests will drop the cash in there. But the point was to get some cash to use for the honeymoon and also give guests a fun couple minutes dancing with the bride or groom one on one.
But I think doing a honeymoon fund “donation” box might be what I end up doing. Might even include my Venmo haha.

View Quoted Comment Yeah we gotta get creative nowadays! lol

View Quoted Comment Interesting idea.

I have seen people do two tip jars and have a sign that says who gets cake in the face? One jar will say bride and one will say groom. Which ever jar gets the most $ that person would get cake in the face. Most people will put a little note on the sign that says all proceeds will be going towards our honeymoon.