Monetary gifts?

If you don't attend, you don't have to send any gift. Given that, it's nice you want to send a gift. Any amount, even less than $150, would be fine for the weddings you don't attend.

I don't think there is a standard amount that you have to give.

However much you can afford to gift them. I don't think there is a set standard. People used to say "cover your plate" but I don't think that's necessary. If you make $100k a year I would assume you would be able to give more than someone who makes $30k. Its all relative. I thin $150 is plenty generous especially if you aren't attending.

Typically if I do not attend a wedding - I send a gift off the registry of $50-75 unless we are very close.

The standard amount really varies geographically. $150 is fine, but if you can't afford that, less is also fine.

Okay that's making me feel better. And I am not expecting monetary gifts from people who do not attend mine. I just feel like I come from a family of "cover your plate." Or, you should give more. And I just get really excited about weddings, so I want to give them a nice gift as I know how much work goes into it and stuff.

If I can't go, I usually send a gift off the registry.

If I attend, it's normally $100-$200 depending on how close we are to the person.

For one that I am not attending, I already bought a $50 wedding shower present, because I am attending the shower next weekend.

I never experience "gifting" someone for not attending the wedding. Never really heard of it before.

If that is something you normally do, then give what amount you can. $150 sounds generous for not attending; regardless of the region/city you live in.

I don't think there is a standard amount; I'd give my cousin more than an old friend from college (probably wouldn't even go to that one....)

The cover the plate thing? I don't know where that even came from ; in my area? That could mean 350-600. per couple.

Do what you can afford.

Thanks everyone for the great advice. This is making me feel better.