Monday Weddings?

It's totally know your crowd. My FH works retail -- he's as likely to be off work on a Tuesday as a Saturday, and he can request not to work a specific day pretty easily.

I am lucky enough to have plenty of vacation time, so taking a couple hours on a M and Tu wouldn't be a big deal.

But I have friends without those circumstances, and it would really tough for them.

Of course, as PPs have said, if it's a DW, it doesn't really matter. Or if your guests are coming in for long stays from out of the country.

Totally disagree with @annakay511. I don't get off weekends especially holiday weekends. I don't work Monday through Friday 9-5, like Celia. She had some good advice. Please don't absolutely do a holiday weekend because "it's more convenient." People do however book vacations over holiday weekends and the guests will have a higher price to pay for travel and accommodations. A Monday wedding if it was in town would be awesome. I'd love something to look forward to on a Monday especially if it's doable costwise and in town. Out of town is a struggle no matter the day. It's easier to get off than a Saturday or Sunday. 8000 dollars is a tremendous savings considering I'm not even spending that on our whole wedding. I think you should do a Monday. I'd rather go to an awesome Monday party then a lame weekend one.

Um, for $8k, I'd do it unless my parents or his parents couldn't attend. Check with your VIP guests first, expect more declines than you initially did, and put that money into something other than a party! ETA not trying to big budget shame here - we had a hung that was a bit too extravagant for my tastes but I didn't speak up enough during planning. I wish we had cut about $8k from our spending!

There's almost no chance I would go to a Monday wedding. My husband is a teacher, though.

I would be bummed, if you were close I would go but couldn't drink much- but if not close I probably would decline. With school/work that's almost impossible

I generally don't decline wedding invitations because of timing circumstances -- if I care about you, I will go to your wedding no matter what day it's on. That said, I probably wouldn't stay super late unless it was enough of a trip where there was no way I could avoid taking the next day off. I went to a Sunday wedding (not trashing them, I'm having a Sunday wedding too) but the location of it was just far enough that it was a tiring drive home, but not far enough to justify staying overnight. I unfortunately ended up needing to leave around 9pm. So I think if you do go for Monday, you might not have the same party atmosphere that you would get on a weekend.

8k is a lot in savings. A lot. However, and I don't know any more details about your wedding but if you're saving 8k it's probably a venue that caters to bigger parties and whatnot. You will not get that ambiance on a Monday. It's a tough call. But think about the whole picture. Do you have a 200 or 130 guest list? It can be awkward to have a huge empty space with dj lights. Perhaps if you're planning a wedding at a winery that can fit 100 people but only 50 or less show up because it's Monday it can still work. So think about what kind of venue and what kind of wedding ambiance you want.

I wouldn't attend unless it was in town at a reasonable time (6 or later)

It should probably be super casual.. Like small guest count, and a nice dinner and drinks for the reception and that's it. Staying up late dancing and drinking a lot isn't really a Monday night activity. I would attend if it was a short reception and it started at like 5:30 or later.