Monday Wedding

As a guest, I wouldn’t be happy with a Monday wedding. I would probably have to leave work early or take the day off. I’m having kids makes weekday evenings hectic with homework and activities. I would leave the reception early for work the next day and not really get to have a good time thinking about work the next day.

Yeah, Monday is definitely not ideal. I wouldn't be too thrilled going to a wedding on a Monday when I work full time. I understand the sentimental component of it, but it's not an ideal situation.

Out of the box thought... could you get married at a court house on that day, and then hold a party for everyone the following weekend? Just throwing it out there!

IMO, a Monday wedding is pretty inconvenient and will for sure cut down on the people who will attend.

Your wedding date will be important cause it's the day you will get married. You don't need to have it on someone else's wedding anniversary to make it be special.

You will have to prepare for some extra declines and wrap up the wedding no later than 8 pm so people can get up for work in the morning. I would also get STDS out fairly early. I think you'll be okay with most guests in town, but I don't think many out of town guests will show.

I would not care too much as long as the wedding was near where I work. Is it a dance? If so many people, including me, would be leaving early. Also you would need to be super aware of timelines and making sure you are not serving food at 8:30 or so - it wold be getting late for a lot of people to be staying.

A wedding invitation is not a subpoena.

I would go to a weekday wedding for someone I was close with. Yes it would probably involve taking a half day from work or more- depending on travel.

I have taken time off of work for worse things- like doctor's appointments or a trip to the DMV- haha.

On the flip side, as long as you know that you will get a lot of declines, I think this is a nice way to keep costs down.

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I want to agree with previous poster: A VIP (close relative, sibling) of course I would take a half day off. I want to also address why you feel this September is too soon. I don't think it is. Lots of brides have planned a wedding in four months or less! That gives you seven months of planning. You would have to compromise on a few things (but a September 2019 will involve compromising as well) and I would rather have a Sunday afternoon wedding than a Monday evening wedding.

I probably wouldn’t go to a Monday wedding but that’s because I’m still going to school and would have class and work that day/ the next day. I’m getting 2 days away from my grandparents anniversary because I wanted to honor them, yet still have my own day.

like the idea of getting married at the courthouse then having a party that following weekend- I think as long as you are up
front with everyone that would be nice if that date is that important to you

Edit: I also want to say this September isn’t that soon either. I’m getting married June this year, and I was engaged Jan. 13th of this year and my wedding planning is going wonderful with everything ready to go!

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Yep, if Lisa could secure a reception site, caterer, and a photographer half the battle is won.

I would try to schedule the ceremony start after 5:30pm and wrap up by 9 or so if it has to be on a Monday but agree this is not ideal for your guests. Are many from out of town?

If it was a sibling or someone very close, I would go no matter if it was in town or we had to travel. If it was extended family in town, I would go but probably not stay super late. If it was an extended family member who was out of town and require a couple of days off, I probably wouldn't go depending on my planned vacation days for the whole year.

It's definitely a know your crowd and guest list thing. If the majority of your guests are out of town, a Monday wedding would be very inconvenient for them.

I think a Monday wedding is very cost effective and a wonderful way to have an intimate guest list! FH and I attended a Monday wedding in NYC (we live in Florida) last year in July and it was great! Your VIPs will make the arrangements they need to make to be there. September 2019 is very far out and if you send STDs very early, people shouldn't have a problem taking a day or two off of work, making babysitter arrangements, etc. I personally would take Monday and Tuesday off so I could drink and party with you all night long!

I don't think it's as horrible as people make it sound. I went to a weekday wedding this past September and it wasn't an issue for me. If someone really wants to attend your wedding, they will come. No matter what day you have your wedding, someone in that room will have to work the next day or will have to work the day of your wedding. I took a vacation day to attend my friend's wedding and I didn't have a problem getting up for work the next day. If people decide your wedding day is not enough to leave work early or take the day off, that's okay as well. if people need to leave early, thank them for coming and go on about your business. No matter what happens or who shows up, just enjoy your day.

I would not be thrilled with a Monday wedding. If it were a Thursday or later in the week, at least I'd only have a day of work left (or could take that day off) but I wouldn't love staying out late on Monday night and have to work the rest of the week after that. Also, you might want to look into whether venues and caterers are even open on Mondays. I assume a lot of places would be open on weekends and then take Mondays off. I also agree with PPs that a Sunday in 2018 is preferable and that you would still have enough time to plan if you wanted to.

I am doing a Monday wedding and think its perfectly acceptable. I understand people will need to take off work but we feel all of our guests will be ok with it. We are having about 70 guests and have had no complaints as to coming on a Monday. In fact people are excited for a 3 day hahaha. Free food, Alcohol, and fun cant beat that.

I think you need to ask yourself what's more important: having the same anniversary as your grandparents, or having a weekend wedding where your guests can more likely attend and let loose?

If you already know the few people who will attend on a Monday, I would keep the guest list small and skip on inviting people you know can't attend. Make it very intentional that you're having a small wedding. Does that make sense? You never know; everyone you invite might actually show up!

Truthfully it depends on the type of wedding you want and what fits best for you. If you only plan on inviting close friends/family, it really should not be an issue. IF it ends up being too much of a hassle, maybe ask if they have any other anniversaries? (First date, first kiss, relationship anniversary) and see if there’s a better suited date that would still tie in with your grandparents

I’m sorry, but since when do you pick a date based on “what works best for the guest?” I’ve been to Thursday weddings, gotten off work early, and either take off the next day or expect to be a little tired. I’ve never complained about a date of a wedding because “it doesn’t work for my schedule”. That seems so rude that some people on this forum is dissing a Monday wedding due to how it would be an inconvenience to them. I have a Monday wedding coming up and ALL of my close friends and family will be there. They’re coming from all ends of the country and are so excited because they can fly in on a Saturday, spend time with everyone, and they will just take Monday and Tuesday off. It’s not like you’re asking them to take off a whole week! It’s one Monday out of the year, people will be just fine. Pick whatever date that makes you happy, and congratulations on the wedding!

View Quoted Comment I 100% agree! I haven’t had one problem
with any of my 100 guests complaining about a Monday wedding!