Monday Wedding

I wouldn't say its rude or inconvenient, I'd call it a 3 day weekend lol. However you do have to think about the people who have to work and parents that have kids that have school if school hasn't ended for the summer by your day. My day is on a Tuesday but its's for sentimental reasons... our anniversary. If you really want to have it on a Monday you might have to except some might not come because it's a Monday.

I would consider it inconvenient and rude. Especially if you know your group and you know majority of people you want there will have to move their schedules around and things like that. I think this is a “know your group” type of thing.

View Quoted Comment It’s my anniversary as well which is why we chose the date, and we’d have to wait till 2026 for a Saturday which would be insane 😂 I would completely understand if some people couldn’t make it, I guess I just feel somewhat guilty..

View Quoted Comment I know for most people it isn’t an issue as we communicated the idea before hand, but for some people (not many) I know it’s a little more tricky.

View Quoted Comment If you’re okay with those people not coming then go for it.

This would probably require people to take both Monday and Tuesday off work. Is that something your crowd can manage?

View Quoted Comment It is mostly people who are unsure they can make it regardless since they are traveling from other states, so I was tossing the idea of changing the date I really want and what if they still couldn’t make it. If that makes sense

You have to ask your guests. Many people are not able to take off a Monday and if they have to travel, that means they lose Tuesday from their work week as well which not everyone can afford to do. Be aware that you will have a very small guest count

You can also always get eloped on that Monday and then have the big wedding on the weekend

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Oooooo I see, Well I understand our guest count is mostly the wedding party with a few family members. Even though our day is on a Tuesday it is a couple days after Christmas so they will have the week off as well as their kids. We're letting them know early so that can make the cost easier his it is Christmas (I told them it will also be a Christmas gift to them since we are going to Vegas) If the day is special for you then have it and except those that can make will. Beside if you get a for sure now on who will and who wont make it you can save the money for the honeymoon.

View Quoted Comment If I were dead set on getting married on my anniversary date, and it fell on a Monday, I would probably choose this option. That way I could have the sweet, intimate ceremony between just My Fiancé and I on our anniversary date, and still get to have the large fun celebration with my family and friends on the weekend, when it is convenient for them. Otherwise, I would just choose another date. While it is not rude, per se, to have your wedding on a Monday, it is most likely going to be very inconvenient; especially since you said a large portion of your guests will be traveling from out of state. That means requesting people to use up multiple vacation days on your wedding. If I were in that position as a guest, I would definitely decline to attend.

View Quoted Comment Yes I think this could work also, it’s not a large portion of guests it’s actually only a few but I still did not want to put anyone in a difficult position. We had previously picked a weekend date but those traveling still said they could not be sure. These are distant family members by we of course did not want exclude them regardless. It was just a matter of sacrificing an intimate date for people who may be no shows regardless. But I do see an elopement and a later party still working out.

No more rude or inconvenient than to have a Saturday or Sunday wedding and invite those who don't work M-F 9-5. There are all kinds of work schedules out there. Some people would need to request Monday off in the same way those who work weekends would need to request that off. So, go for if that's the date you want!

It's not rude but I wouldn't recommend it if you want to have a high turn out. A Monday wedding probably would be difficult for people traveling from out of town

My FH and I are getting married on 2/22/22, which is a Tuesday following a Monday holiday. A lot of our out of town guests were unable to come because of COVID, travel expense, and the day of the week we chose for our wedding. It is not "rude" to get married on a weekday but it certainly will reduce your guest count.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yea I figured that much. After speaking with most guests, it seems it will work out just fine 🤞🏼 We do have family who work weekends also so it was going to be a tough call either way. We’ll just accept that some will make it and some may not.

View Quoted Comment This was actually our situation as everyone has different work schedules, so either way it would be tricky. We’re grateful for whoever can make it and will keep our date!

If people can make a Friday wedding, surely they can take time off to go to a Monday wedding. I see no problem with them and have attended one myself!

I think it also depends just on what the expectation is with travel. Our date (01/30/23) is a Monday but because its destination we kept it that way to have the venue we wanted at a price we could afford. People were going to have to be taking a vacation to get down there anyways!! AND- we really mostly just care about our family being there and the whole things a 9 day trip for family members with our wedding being in the middle of it.

It is not rude at all— I’m shocked by these responses. Atypical? Yes but rude? No way


If people are given enough advance notice they can attend. Just be sure to send save the dates and communicate it’s a Monday. I would attend a Monday wedding with enough notice!