Momzilla!

I have the opposite problem. My mom has shown me several WHITE dresses, one dress that was literally from a bridal collection, and a BRIGHT PINK ballgown for a semi-formal restaurant reception. I am in the same boat with the stressful mother's. The only thing you can do is set boundaries and not let her be a part of certain decisions if you know her opinion is going to upset you. Good luck!

Ok, I don't know what to say about the MOB dress. I don't think black is a bad choice, but it may not be what you were hoping for. But your mom can wear whatever she wants. The focus will be on you and FH that day, so it doesn't really matter, and nobody will remember what your mother was wearing.

But I do think this bit of advice can be helpful: you say she's negative about everything. So, STOP TELLING HER THINGS. That's the bottom line. I know it doesn't fit with the idea that our moms are going to be this amazing well of support and excitement over our weddings. But in reality, that's not always the way it is. You are finding out first hand. The only way to stop her negativity is to stop telling her details about the wedding, decisions you and FH have made, and stop asking her opinion.

It's possible, when you stop telling her things, she'll start to get a clue that she's been cut out of the loop. If she asks why, tell her the truth--that you can't stand her negativity. If she wants to change that and start being positive, or at least keeping her comments to herself, then maybe you can let her back into the planning loop. Otherwise, I'd cut her out. It's the only way you're going to have any peace.

I agree to either stop telling her things or to just cut her out of your life for a bit. I did because my mother was stressing me out and we didn’t have a great relationship beforehand

Have a corsage for her to wear at the wedding. That can be the something extra. Otherwise, just don't talk to her about wedding planning anymore.