Mom's reaction

As long as you’re happy that’s all that matters! If this is a healthy relationship, and his family is behind you, and you’re excited about it then just enjoy the excitement!

Did she ever express what her issue with him is? My father told my moms parents that they were getting married. Her dad says "better not, she needs to finish school". My dad said, sorry we are not asking permission. Her dad didnt come to the wedding but was supportive after I was born. This is either that she doesnt like him, or there are issues with her losing you to anyone, or she just has her own issues. I would ask her to express her concerns if she has any but that she is really hurting you when this should be a great mother/daughter moment. I'm sorry you have to deal with this but you are forming your own family now.

Sorry she’s being like that but if you guys have a good relationship and you want to move forward, then do it.

Just one more reason why I dislike the tradition of asking the bride's parent(s) for permission. It suggests that they have the right to decide, and then what do you do if they withhold it? Plus, it's sexist. No one is asking the groom's parents whether he is allowed to get married.

It is not up to your mom or anyone else , when you become engaged. After the fact, parents hear like anyone you care about. But you do not need permission. That mom is being so petty is her problem. If she chooses not to come out of stubborn pig headedness, her problem. Invite her, treat her like a normal person, and refuse to discuss or give credence to this foolishness. The answer to her saying, " I won't be coming to your wedding,". Is "Your loss.). And change the subject. She has no power over you here unless you give it to her. Don't. Ignore her.

Congrats in you engagement! I know how hard this should be for you, my mom is also like my best friend and this would break my heart! Why don’t you try talking to her about why she feels this way? Maybe she got really mad that he didn’t wait for her response or maybe she feels is not the time, it could be so many thinks. Saying she won’t go it’s a little harsh to be honest but try to talk to her, at the end of the day that will be a huge day for you and you want her there.

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So much this!!!! We simply told our families after, but we both discussed it with our sons right away. I did tell her son I felt bad that I hadn't talked to him first, not because I needed his permission but wanted his blessing, he laughed and said his mom is happy and that's all he wants. My son said the same to her.

The people that love you and want you to be happy will be happy for you in any healthy relationship. If that is what you have then be happy and let them do whatever it is they are going to do anyway. You certainly can't control them.

It's not up to her :/ I've friends who had parents unhappy with their union but they went thru with it anyway because at the end of the day they parents are not the ones who are in charge of your happiness ya know?