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Moms guest list

Fmv, on March 4, 2019 at 6:32 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3

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So my mom is inviting a few family friends, which is awesome.
She asked if she could invite 3 co workers. I said yes, shes really good friends with them and weve known them for 10+ years.
Only problem is one of them has a horrible horrible husband. Emotional/physical abusive. Also does drugs and has been in and out of jail.
My mom suggest just inviting the 3 women without their husbands. I feel bad not inviting their husbands but I personally do not the one husband at my wedding.
And yes I know I can't pick and chose and if you have a spouse they need to be invited....I get that, but even my mom is trying to think how to invite her friend but not the husband.
Any insight?

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Latest activity by Bride2020, on May 16, 2019 at 4:38 PM

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Alejandra · on March 4, 2019 at 7:14 PM
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That's a toughie because if you do invite only them for "space purposes/limitations" then moms friends can deny because they want their SO to accompany them. I know this may sound messed up to others but well you can have your mom say that your guest list was full previously and 3 spots opened up and she'd love to have them there but thats all you can offer is 3 spots for her 3 friends. Yes, I know this is anti-etiquette but if you can't invite them as couples (you can't let 2 of them take their husbands and not 1) maybe they're good enough friends that they can go together, you have to spin it in a way where none of them would get offended.
Best of Luck!
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Alexandra · on March 15, 2019 at 3:06 PM
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I agree with this as a way out of inviting the SOs.
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Bride2020 · on May 16, 2019 at 4:38 PM
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Because they aren't your coworkers, they're your moms friends, I think it's ok to break etiquette and not invite the hubbys, especially if you don't really know any of them! Most people I know tell their parents "you have x amount of people" so 3 makes a really big difference, I don't think it will seem impolite, especially since they will have the three of them their to keep eachother company. If you get the RSVPS back and only one can go and it's not the one with the kooky husband, just call her up and tell her to bring her husband.
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