Mom won't back off

Your mom won't know any better unless you tell her how you feel.


You need to remind her it's your wedding not hers plus she shouldn't be planning everything unless she's funding it n thinks she's entitled.

Stand up for yourself and stop telling her things. Keep things to yourself more and if she gives an opinion tell her how YOU feel and remind her it’s YOUR wedding. If you don’t start now this will keep going. Good luck.

My mother inlaw is the same way, I just stopped telling her things and planning things on my own. When she asked about a dj, i simply say it has been talen care of, table linens - I say taken care of. Dont give details, less is best.

I've had this same issue with a couple of people in my inner circle (family included). I just calmly told them that "I appreciate their opinions but Mike (my FH), and I have decided what we want, it's our day and we want to make sure we're happy". After all, my FH and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. I'm not sure, and it is none of my business, who is paying for your wedding, but it can get tricky if someone oversharing their opinions is also paying for part of the wedding. I've been a witness to those situations and it can get uncomfortable because they can begin to feel that they should plan with you if their money is being used. If you and your fiance are paying for your wedding yourselves, I would say give less details on your wedding. The less they know, the less than can critique. No one should tell you how to spend your own money. I stopped sharing some details with one person in my inner circle who tried to counter every decision Mike and I made regarding our wedding planning thus far.

It can be a very difficult situation to be in and I would say just be open and honest with your mom. Let her know you appreciate her ideas but you'd rather have your wedding this way, or you'd rather have this instead of that.

Just say it’s a surprise that will shut her ip