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Expert April 2022

Mom wearing a flapper dress

CountryBride, on January 27, 2021 at 2:00 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 11
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I am learning to pick my battles however I need advice on how to handle this situation, without sounding like a complete bridezilla, My mom started shopping for her mother of bride dress for my wedding next April, she had shown me beautiful dresses and I told her how wonderful she would look in them. she showed me a dress that she purchased as her mother of the bride dress, it's a flapper dress with a feather hat and boa I am just dumbfounded, and it's in a champagne color which is my wedding dress. She dressed up very nicely for my sister's wedding and cousins wedding and my first wedding she said she wants something young and fun this doesn't even match my theme at all which is country I could see if we were having a great gaspy wedding or something like that but its a dang Halloween costume. I know she will get angry if I say anything but I am feeling embarrassed and as much of a pain in the arse she can be I don't want anyone making fun of her at the wedding

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Latest activity by Allie, on January 28, 2021 at 2:35 PM
  • Meghan
    Rockstar October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Yikes. If she asks for your opinion, I would be honest with her about it. Otherwise, I would probably just let it go if you think it will cause issues between you. She will look like the moron, not you.

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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2022
    Samantha Online ·
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    Is she possibly joking with you?
    Is this incredibly out of character for her?
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  • K
    Savvy August 2021
    Katie ·
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    I know this is not a common opinion but I am helping both mothers with their dress. My thought is- they will be in the majority of the wedding pictures just like a bridesmaid! And it’s your wedding. I wouldn’t want to look back at my wedding photos and see how nice everyone looks, except the one person that didn’t want to dress up?
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  • CountryBride
    Expert April 2022
    CountryBride ·
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    No mam she is serious showed me the recipient it's not out of character but it is. I am just dumbfounded she is a high functioning alcoholic so I don't know why she bought it oh well.

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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2022
    Samantha Online ·
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    I am so sorry you are dealing with this. If she is determined, I guess resign yourself to it and know you did the best you could.

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  • Belle
    Rockstar August 2022
    Belle ·
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    Gosh, it already sound embarrassing. Talk to her, and be very honest about it.
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  • Michelle
    Devoted April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I would say something to her. You don't need to be embarrassed about anything on your wedding day. Offer to go shopping with her so you can see what she tries on and inevitability buys.

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  • C
    Master January 2019
    Cassidy ·
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    I mean a flapper dress could be cute.
    Could you try and talk her out of the bat and boa and maybe accessorize it differently? That is if she won’t return it.
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  • JM Sunshine
    August 2020
    JM Sunshine ·
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    Have you shared your thoughts with your sister? Maybe she could gently suggest something else.😁🤷
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  • MLS
    Dedicated September 2021
    MLS ·
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    I would be blunt with my mom. I would tell her she can wear it to the rehearsal (or a pre or post wedding event) however it's not appropriate for the wedding. Just depends on your mom and her personality. But I think it's worth saying something. I could be blunt with my mom and our relationship would be fine. If you think she's going to have a negative reaction, make a suggestion for another event that she can wear it to.
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  • Allie
    Rockstar November 2021
    Allie ·
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    If you aren't comfortable telling her completely that you hate the look as it doesn't match your theme, could you maybe say that it's too close of a color to your bridal gown? Maybe then she would take that news a little easier and try to find something else? I didn't have an issue with my mom, we went together and I actually picked the dress she chose and we both loved it, so I really feel for you that your experience wasn't simpler. But she is going to be in your photos, so if you aren't comfortable with what she is wearing, I would say something!

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