Mom wearing a flapper dress

Yikes. If she asks for your opinion, I would be honest with her about it. Otherwise, I would probably just let it go if you think it will cause issues between you. She will look like the moron, not you.

Is she possibly joking with you?
Is this incredibly out of character for her?

I know this is not a common opinion but I am helping both mothers with their dress. My thought is- they will be in the majority of the wedding pictures just like a bridesmaid! And it’s your wedding. I wouldn’t want to look back at my wedding photos and see how nice everyone looks, except the one person that didn’t want to dress up?

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No mam she is serious showed me the recipient it's not out of character but it is. I am just dumbfounded she is a high functioning alcoholic so I don't know why she bought it oh well.

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I am so sorry you are dealing with this. If she is determined, I guess resign yourself to it and know you did the best you could.

Gosh, it already sound embarrassing. Talk to her, and be very honest about it.

I would say something to her. You don't need to be embarrassed about anything on your wedding day. Offer to go shopping with her so you can see what she tries on and inevitability buys.

I mean a flapper dress could be cute.
Could you try and talk her out of the bat and boa and maybe accessorize it differently? That is if she won’t return it.

Have you shared your thoughts with your sister? Maybe she could gently suggest something else.😁🤷

I would be blunt with my mom. I would tell her she can wear it to the rehearsal (or a pre or post wedding event) however it's not appropriate for the wedding. Just depends on your mom and her personality. But I think it's worth saying something. I could be blunt with my mom and our relationship would be fine. If you think she's going to have a negative reaction, make a suggestion for another event that she can wear it to.

If you aren't comfortable telling her completely that you hate the look as it doesn't match your theme, could you maybe say that it's too close of a color to your bridal gown? Maybe then she would take that news a little easier and try to find something else? I didn't have an issue with my mom, we went together and I actually picked the dress she chose and we both loved it, so I really feel for you that your experience wasn't simpler. But she is going to be in your photos, so if you aren't comfortable with what she is wearing, I would say something!