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Just Said Yes May 2019

Mom problems

Myra, on November 10, 2019 at 10:17 PM Posted in Planning 0 4

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First bit of info is I’ve never been big about having a wedding. Same with my future husband. But I’m my parents oldest and my mom wanted to give me one. So I agreed to the idea. Now I’m regretting it because she started working again and hasn’t had time to discuss details with me. Wedding is May 2020 with lots of family out of town and she thought October was too early for save the dates. I mentioned the RSVPs to get a better head count for our caterer. I know most won’t do it and I know she will pay for it. But I don’t want to worry about tons of leftovers. This started as a simple idea in my grandmother’s backyard with plenty of room and now she wants to rent a venue just in case weather is bad that day and to find something now since graduation parties are big in our town. I was able to find a place available for that day and she hasn’t given me the deposit. Our family is excited and have their magnetic save the dates on fridge. I wanted to get my dress ordered this month to have time for it to come in and fitted. Haven’t scheduled an appointment at a bridal shop because we’ll have to travel two hours to one. I don’t know what to do anymore.

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Latest activity by Cyndy, on November 11, 2019 at 8:52 AM

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Yoice · on November 10, 2019 at 10:35 PM
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Hi Myra. I think you first need to get a better idea of what you want and not your mom. I understand she wants you to have a wedding and you agreed to it but this means she’s going to help you not do the whole planning. Maybe you need to plan it and tell her this weekend bridal boutiques, don’t make plan. I think you’re both waiting on each other and maybe she’s not wanting to step on your toes. Maybe sit down and talk to her just like you said here and come up with a plan. You’ll have some responsibilities as a bride and she’ll have others but I think is important to plan it soon!
Good luck.
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Halie · on November 10, 2019 at 10:45 PM
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I went through the same thing and I'm now six days out from my wedding. I didn't want a big wedding partly because I work 60hrs a week and so does my FH. The best advice I could ever give someone is to go with your gut and do things when you want them done, it's never a bad thing to be ahead of the game. I also didn't want a big wedding because most of my family and friends lives an hour away and my FH's family and friends live 2hrs away. We don't expect a big turn out because of weather and the distance. So we're just going with the flow at this point. But always listen to your gut.
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Veronica · on November 11, 2019 at 7:26 AM
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Honestly you are the one that needs to plan the wedding not your mom. It is your wedding so it is your responsibility to plan. Whether you wanted the wedding or not doesn't matter as you agreed to have a wedding so you need to plan it.
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Cyndy · on November 11, 2019 at 8:52 AM
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I agree with PP. get your plan together and sit down with your mom and tell her what you need, but you need to be driving things not her
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