Mom keeps inviting people to my wedding :/

Have you spoken to your mother about this? Is she paying for the wedding?

If she's payin for the wedding then you don't have a say but if you're paying tell her to stop talking to ppl and you will situate it yourself

I would just talk to your mom telling her you're glad she's excited about your day, but you would rather her not speak to everyone about it. I would also let her know due to budget etc you can only invite a certain amount. If she is helping pay, maybe have a talk about your list so she understands and realizes.

If you're paying, you tell her to stop and be firm about it.

I hear about this more than one would think....WHY the fuck would anyone do that? Yea, I agree. Tell her stop.

She's not paying for anything. We're doing it all ourselves. And I did try to tell her we can't invite all of the family because there's way too many of them, but she's already told so many people and now I feel horrible not inviting them. :/

I've found that wedding-related stuff is often a way for parents to brag to extended family. Do you see these extended relatives on the reg? If not, since your mom was the one to give verbal invites, the onus is on her to backpedal.

For your part, you can stick to the usual pat answers given on wedding websites such as "we're constrained by our venue," etc. If these extended relatives can't name your age or what you and your FH do for a living, off-ski they go from the guest list.

Your mom should not have anything to do with inviting the guests. Tell her to stop. Show her this discussion:-)

"Sorry, it's immediate family only."

Boom, done.

Use the venue as an excuse. Or budget.

Don't feel bad not inviting them. You weren't planning on inviting them and then you cut them out. They were never on the list.

You're paying, you have final say in the guest list. Don't feel guilty because your mom made a huge faux pas. She needs to clean that up.

Don't just try to tell her. Tell her. Firm. No is a complete sentence.

Don't TRY to tell her she can't invite people. Be firm and tell your mother she cannot and will not invite anyone to your wedding, and that you own the guest list. Period.

She created the problem. It's on her to clean it up. Don't send invitations to people she "invited" when she's not hosting and has no business inviting anyone.

BOOM! All good advice. I agree with everyone.

Thank you all for the help! We finally got our guest list set this evening so I sent it to my mom and told her not to discuss wedding details with anyone who is not explicitly named on that list.