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Alie
Just Said Yes April 2020

Mom is planning the wedding she wants for me....

Alie, on August 17, 2021 at 8:20 PM Posted in Planning 0 5
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We are 2 months away from.the wedding that has been rescheduled, altered...rearranged twice ..once bc of mom wanting everything and 2nd covid.

My dad passed and I have been doing quite a lot to keep mom happy. she doesnt like much these days since dad died... but im.dreading this wedding bc I feel it isnt me. And my fh isn't into it much either and even less bc im stressing about it...he is worried im doing so much h yo please my mom that I won't even like it.
And its true.. I may not. All we really want is to go to the woods and have a ceremony with a few ppl.
How bad is it to do a 180 55 days out? I literally mailed invites last week.. Can I blame covid? Im so sad.

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Latest activity by Pia, on August 18, 2021 at 8:46 AM
  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    If the wedding as is is causing you stress and it doesn’t reflect you at all then cancel that and plan what you and fiancé want that you can afford.
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  • Melissa
    Dedicated October 2023
    Melissa ·
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    Do whatsoever YOU want to do. Explain to your mom that you want her to be happy, but the wedding she wants doesn't make you guys happy.
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  • Pia
    Super May 2021
    Pia ·
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    Hi Ali!
    Sorry to hear this but not to be hard … I’m
    A very frank person…. It’s YOUR WEDDING’ speak up regardless of who is paying for it. It’s probably too late now but if not have a VERY SERIOUS conversation with your mom and explain / EXPRESS to her how you feel and that you are NOT HAPPY and that you don’t feel this wedding is you. Good luck
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  • Alie
    Just Said Yes April 2020
    Alie ·
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    Shes paying for venue and food. We are covering everything else.
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  • Pia
    Super May 2021
    Pia ·
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    It does not matter. It’s your wedding if you’re not happy what she’s doing and if she’s hanging over your head what she’s paying for them there’s 2 options.
    (1) Have get NOT pay and do something that’s more in your budget and keep it moving or
    (2) if you feel you cannot say anything and be unhappy let your mom do as she pleases and you accept and have regrets . I’m not trying to be difficult. As a parent regardless if I’m paying some or ALL of my children’s wedding it is there wedding . There dream day and I must respect those wishes and desires
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