Unfortunately, my family is totally selfish. My mom gained a lot of weight and had issues with alcohol after her and my ex step father got divorced and she got some health problems from that and depression. Now I'm all she has (my biological father left me young and is a toxic person) and she can be very controlling and opionated about my life. Every time I tell her a detail about how wedding planning is going (venue, time, guests, etc) she has a complaint. For example, I told her we'd probably get married at 3pm and she immediately is worried about what traffic will be like after. Then she started prying about guests. I already knew this wouldn't end well but she wouldn't drop it until I told her I wanted to invite my ex step dad. He helped raise me from 4 years old until I was 18! We only talk a few times a year and we're not super close but I still love and care about him and want him there. I was even thinking about having him walk me down my aisle perhaps with my grandad. She told me she is ashamed of what she looks like and doesn't want him to see her now (the wedding is still way over a year away in 2022 but clearly she has no intention on bettering herself) and she screamed at me that she won't come if I invite him. She demanded that I just gave a court house wedding instead and she only cares about her feelings and my immediate family with no regard for our friends or even my fiancés family. She refuses to even take wedding photos with me so I can't have any pictures or evidence that my mom was even there. She even tried to guilt me for not putting my aunt in my bridal party. She's not planning to pay for anything except the wedding dress and a necklace. Even if she does come, I feel she will resent me. I don't want to give into all of her childish demands but I also want my mother at my wedding. Advice is appreciated. :/ thank you.