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Mom is deceased....Dad has girlfriend, where does she sit?

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Andrea, on October 13, 2015 at 2:57 PM

My mom passed away 11 years ago. Currently, my dad has a girlfriend who I've met several times but not really spent much time with. So, I'm not really close with her. My question is what is the etiquette on where she would sit. I don't really want her sitting where my mom would have sat because some people on my fiance's side don't know me really well may think that's my mom. She's definitely not going to be escorted in. I was thinking of having my mom's sister sit in her place. Any advice?

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SwoleMates2016 · on October 18, 2015 at 12:51 PM
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I'm so glad Cecila said something about the empty chair. It is devastating to not have the ones closest to us on your special day but a wedding is not the place to morn the dead loved one. Think of how your father might feel to be full of joy for this little girl and then see your mothers face in an empty chair next to him. Do something small for yourself like wearing something of hers or having a photo of you two in a display, but I think the empty chair is too far. You don't want to be looking over and being saddened by it the entire ceremony, and neither do all those who loved her and miss her.
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Waychox3 · on October 18, 2015 at 1:20 PM
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Your aunt sits where your mom would have after she is escorted in carrying a flower of photo of your mom. And your fathers girlfriend sits with him also but she does not get any limelight. It would be rude to send her off somewhere, if it were me and I was sent "away" I would feel unwelcome and unwanted.
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Susan · on October 18, 2015 at 2:06 PM
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When I was in the early planning stages I asked my father about the empty chair and he flat out said " NO please don't" My mother had been gone nearly 29 years before my planned day. Dad ended up passing away before the main event (had a small wedding in the ICU days before he passed). My brothers sat in the front row and escorted me. I would test the waters with the family photos, maybe do some with her and some without. You never know where the relationship will go over time. Please let her sit with your dad.
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Jennifer · on October 19, 2015 at 7:16 AM
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I'm so very sorry about your mom... I lost my dad 11 years ago also.
I have to agree with several of the other ladies here... You don't have to have her escorted in to the ceremony or the reception, but she should sit with your father at dinner. Nobody will think she's your mom, because she's not being announced. If your announcing your father, and not her, nobody will think she's your mom.
For me, I have a great relationship with my step-dad, but he's not my dad... I won't be escorted down the aisle by him, and I'm not having a father/daughter dance with him.
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