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Mom is being a jerk over my bridesmaid's hair.

Rosalie, on December 7, 2022 at 6:52 PM Posted in Hair and Makeup 0 5

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I have this sister, Laura, and she is one my bridesmaids (and a great one at that). The thing is that she has grown her hair out for years and it is all the way to her leg now. She always braids it, so it's a little shorter when it's up. My other sister (also a bridesmaid) has the same hair color, except she has shorter hair. And my mother keeps pressuring Laura to cut it so as not to draw attention away from me on my wedding day. I do not want Laura to cut her hair unless she wants to, and my mother's snarky remarks on Laura's hair is annoying for all of us. What should I do?

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Latest activity by Jess, on December 16, 2022 at 1:18 PM

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Hannah · on December 7, 2022 at 6:57 PM
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Tell your mom that your sister’s hair is none of her concern, and no one will think her hair, which is the same length it’s been for awhile, is going to overshadow you as a bride. If she continues, then I would just firmly tell her you’re not engaging in this conversation and shut it down.
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Veronica · on December 7, 2022 at 7:20 PM
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I would tell your mom to leave your sister alone about her hair. The length of her hair is in no way going to distract guests from paying attention to you. Your mom is honestly being ridiculous for even thinking that her hair is an issue.
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Erin · on December 7, 2022 at 7:27 PM
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I think you can tell your mom once to leave your sister alone about her hair, but after that I’d let your sister handle any further complaints from mom as she is an adult (assuming age here but correct me if I’m wrong). Now, if your mother tries to continue to come directly to you about it and ask that you intervene, a simple “Hey Mom, so as I said previously, her hair doesn’t bother me and I will not be asking her to cut it.” and then shut the conversation down.
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Michelle · on December 9, 2022 at 4:54 PM
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Mom needs to back off because she has no business dictating or asking anyone to cut their hair at a wedding that is not hers to begin with. Set and maintain boundaries with consequences, and get practice saying no repeatedly and walking away or hanging up the phone. This behavior will continue with other aspects of your lives after the wedding if you don’t stop it now. Make sure that your hair/makeup team is aware of this so they will not cave to mom’s wishes.
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Jess · on December 16, 2022 at 1:18 PM
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Totally agree with everyone else! No one should be pressured to cut their hair a certain way for a wedding. You as the bride will definitely stand out regardless! I’d continue to stick up for your sister on this one.
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