Mom invited aunt to go wedding dress shopping.... Do i have to invite to the wedding?

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I would invite her.

I certainly would.

Talk to your mom asap and explain, yes, if she goes dress shopping I'm sure she will expect an invite.

If it's just her maybe, but if it opens the door to inviting the other 9 siblings plus SO's, yikes! Did your mom think your aunt would be invited? She really put you in an awkward situation.

Does your mom know the wedding is small and does she assume that your aunt will be there? And yes, if she's shopping with you she'll probably expect an invite.

My mom didn't even think about it. She just thought it would be fun if her sister came. When I mentioned the wedding she said that the aunt doesn't need to come and will understand that we are doing a very small thing. I would just feel really bad if an invite wasn't extended in some way after her help. Especially since she's a very generous person. If she comes she'll be taking us to dinner and stuff.

I'd tell your mom that you prefer your aunt not be there, if it's going to pressure you into inviting her.

ETA: For what it's worth, I do think it's a bit rude to invite extra people to your dress shopping. It can be very stressful, and if you're not close to your aunt it could add more stress.

Your mom put you in an awkward position. But, maybe your aunt will understand you're having a small wedding and feel like going dress shopping is a way for her to be a part of your special day.

That's what my mom said. My aunt was a huge part of my life when I was little and she never had any daughters so she was really excited he help be a part of things.

Yikes! That's tough and your mom definitely put you in an awkward position. Honestly, if you can fit her in, I would. I wouldn't invite her, however, if it means you have to fit in all of your other aunts/uncles.

That's a tough situation. I feel like she can't come dress shopping if she isn't going to be invited to the wedding.

And like PP said, if she IS invited, that opens up a whole can of worms for the 9 other aunts/uncles who aren't invited.

If I was invited to go dress shopping with someone, I'd interpret that as "this bride considers me to be very close to her and values my opinion" and I'd think I will be receiving an invitation to her wedding.

Agreed that your mom put you in a very awkward position. Does your mom know you're planning a smaller wedding and not planning to invite aunts and uncles? Do you think calling your aunt your mom's plus one will cause issues with their other siblings? If the two if them aren't on the outs with every single one of their brothers and sisters, I think it would be weird for your other aunts and uncles not to be invited, as well.

I would. Although, you could have your mom explain to her before hand the situation. Maybe it'll make her happy that she just got to see you in the dress because she won't the day of the wedding..

Awkward. I'd feel obligated to invite her, but, yes, her coming as your mom's plus one may work, particularly since I would probably make my mom explain the situation to any angry siblings, since it's her fault.

I would invite her to the wedding. But I would also make it clear to your mom that you want to have a small wedding and if people get invited to pre-wedding events it puts you in an awkward spot it you weren't planning on inviting them. Explain to her that you're planning on a small wedding and ask her to run it by you if she wants to invite someone to anything wedding related from here on out.

Honestly. You or your mom should explain to your aunt that she isn't invited. For our vow renewal in November, we are having a very intimate celebration with only immediate family (incl grandparents) and siblings. Only one non-relative couple will be there, and it's my lifelong best friend. We love our aunt & uncle dearly, but cannot invite them because that would open the door to inviting our other aunt and uncle whom we also love, but are not as close with. It is what it is - you should stick to your strict guest list. It's hard not to when the list is so small, but eh. She would probably feel better knowing, or hearing from you.

If she isn't going to be invited to the wedding you should make sure that she knows before going dress shopping.

Personally I think you have to invite her. I also think your in a sticky situation now because the invite for dress shopping was already extended. So you really cant uninvite her dress shopping. I also think it would be rude to have a convo before hand saying your not invited to the wedding.

Could you say I'd really rather it was just me and my mum for the dress shopping? Or even say the shops won't let more than one person?