Mom Hates Wedding Dress

Can I ask why you want her approval? If you’re disagreeing a lot and you have different tastes, I would be worried that you’d give up on a dress you absolutely love just to please your mom and I don’t think that’s ok.

Her opinion just really matters a lot to me. I want to make her happy, and I know I should get a dress I love. I’m confident that if we keep trying, we’ll find one that we both like, but I also feel like we’re running out of dress options.

Have you talked to her about her expectations vs yours? Is there a way to sit down and make her understand your vision and what you want? Compromise?

I understand you wanting her approval, but at the end of the day it's YOUR DAY, not hers. If you absolutely love the dress, approval or not, get it. You'll be happy and she'll (hopefully) be happy for you even if the dress isn't one of her personal favs!

My mom really didn't like the first dress I chose (I had serious dress regret and wound up getting another one) but she kept it to herself, she only told me after seeing that I changed it. Remember it's your day and honestly she should be happy if you are. You are the one who needs to feel beautiful in it, not her. As a mother, I would just keep my feelings to myself if I saw my daughter very happy with something

I totally understand. My mom and I aren’t super close, and have drastically different styles, and she has not only told me she doesn’t like a single dress I’ve tried on, she also doesn’t think I should wear white (2nd wedding). It’s tough when you really want that approval!! You have to decide what is more worth it to you. Having a dress you absolutely love, or having mom’s 100% approval. I really hope you can get both, but you have have to choose one!

I understand wanting her approval but at some point you need to step up and make yourself happy. You're the one that will be wearing the dress - not her. You're the one that needs to feel amazing in it - again, not her.

If you guys have different styles and expectations for dresses then maybe the next dress that you try on that feels like "the one" should be the dress you buy. I would hope that your mother would want you to be happy and would support your dress decision.

It's your day. Pick the dress you love. She will learn to love it as well.

Has she shown you what styles she likes? If so, is that something that would work for you? Maybe having some kind of idea in mind before you go shopping together would help narrow it down.

My mom is very negative, so only buying a dress that works for her would have been impossible!

I’m kind of in the same boat. Every dress I have tried on my mom hasn’t liked the same ones I have. I really want her to like my dress but I also want to feel beautiful and comfortable. She wants me to chose what she likes but she said “you’re going to do what you want to do and I get it” so I know you want to please your mom, you aren’t alone. But don’t sacrifice your comfort level, your mom is going to love you and support you either way, it’s just a dress ( I’m sure she loves you more than a dress )

I had similar issues with my mom. We had two different visions for my dress, but I still really wanted her approval. I was so so close to saying yes to a dress that she loved, but I hated. I stood there for 20 minutes talking myself into it while she cried and the consultant added a veil and accessories, but I am so glad I said I wanted to keep looking. Eventually I found a dress that we both loved! I hope that you can also find a dress that you both love, but at the end of the day, you need to feel confident and beautiful. After the wedding, it won’t matter to her what your dress looked like, but it will matter to you. You don’t want to be full of regret when it comes to your memories and your photos!

I think you may have to decide on who you want to be happy. Do you want the dress that makes you feel like the best version of you knowing your mother may not love it, or do you want your mom to be happy and wear a dress you may not love.
At the end of the day, she isn't the one wearing the dress. She isn't the one who will be looking at photos and be regretting the dress she wore to please someone else. I think there's other places you can make compromises but YOUR dress isn't one of those places.

I think sometimes moms get caught up in what they like, or what they imagine seeing their little girl in. But you’re a grown woman with her own style. If you can have a heart-to-heart asking for her to be supportive, then great. But if that’s not your mom, let go of needing her approval. You’ll look & feel beautiful in your wedding dress and everyone else will see that too.