Mom Has New Fling

I wouldn't say you're being rude. If her boyfriend doesn't know anyone else at the wedding, it could be awkward for him to not be around your mom. Just something to consider

If they’ve just started dating I can understand why you wouldn’t want him to escort her. This is a very big day for you and you don’t want someone you don’t know having such a big part. Maybe talk to your mom and explain that to her. My son got married in October and my now husband and I had been together 3 years and he still didn’t escort me because my sons dad and I walked together. We felt that was the right thing to do for our son. Good luck

View Quoted Comment I would have him sit at the table with her.. but just have someone else escort her in. They have only been talking for two weeks. I do not even know if they are “in a relationship” at this point. I’m meeting him for the first time this weekend.. less that 4 weeks before my wedding. Ugh, idk!

View Quoted Comment I did and she got upset. I want her to feel comfortable, but I don’t really feel like he should get that much attention as someone my FH and I don’t even know yet.

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately she might have to stay mad because it’s YOUR day.

Have someone else escort her. Those photos and videos are forever and that’s too much for a “new” guy.

If you left the plus one open-ended, then she can bring this guy. But neither one of them needs to be part of a big formal entrance into the reception. You can just let the two of them walk in like any other guests.

I'm a single mom and getting married. Maybe consider that this day is a big deal for her too. And that going through that day without a partner would be difficult. Weddings themselves are difficult following divorce. Try opening your heart to the pain that mom might be feeling about this. It's walking in, not family portraits. Yes, it's your day but kindness goes a long way. You'll have the rest of your life with her after this day. I day let mom have some company when she walks in... *You also didn't mention of dad would be there or have a date. This might even make mom feel like she shouldn't be painted three poor divorcee.

View Quoted Comment I feel like I am being kind by letting her bring him. I don’t even know who he is. I would feel differently if they were in a long-term relationship, but she just started talking to him and I don’t even know how long he will be in the picture honestly.

I say let mom have some company when she walks in... *You also didn't mention if dad would be there or have a date. That alone might make mom feel like she shouldn't be painted as the poor divorcee who is all alone.

View Quoted Comment I'd say meet him. If she thinks he's that great - maybe consider that he is? She's having you meet him. Tread carefully, she carries a lot of pain from her divorce. We all do. Unless she's insane and has a new man each week... I know there's room in your heart to later her walk in with a date. This isn't world ending. But, it could hurt your relationship with her depending on how you handle it.

Just tell her you’re not comfortable with it. Either that or make it a point to meet this guy before your wedding. I would have to assume that if she hasn’t had anyone in mind until now, and is now asking to bring this one, he must be at least a little important to her.

Definitely not rude.. unfortunately you have to think big picture. If he comes and plays an active role he will likely be in A LOT of photos.. you don't want to look back if they dont work out and not enjoy your photos.. or deal with potential comments from your mom if she sees photos with him in it after a break up.. just a thought..

No, you aren't! Its nice that you are allowing her to bring him and VERY reasonable that you want someone else to walk her in! You don't know if this guy is going to be around forever and the entrances are photographed. This guy will be completely fine sitting for a minute or two while she gets walked in.

Yea I agree , I don't think she needs to be escorted into the reception by him

Agree, she doesn't need to be escorted by him.

Why does she have to be escorted into the reception at all? If this is such a problem between the two of you just have the parents already be in and have you and your bridal party be announced in.

Not rude at all. Invite him and put them at the same table but no he would not be escorting her in the wedding as those picture during the entrance will be reminders for years to come. And you said shes talking to someone you aren't even sure they are dating so no he doesn't get that privilege.