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CountryBride, on January 25, 2022 at 10:38 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 7

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So my mom is a peach. We were talking today I said you’ll have 10 grandkids and 11 if you include Lucas. (Backstory my fh and I had a stillborn in dec 2020 we named him Lucas) my mother said we should get over him and suggested we don’t bring him up at the wedding. I have a bouquet charm , and we are mentioning him in our programs. Is this too much I don’t want our wedding to feel like a funeral

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Latest activity by Kris, on January 27, 2022 at 11:33 AM

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Caytlyn · on January 25, 2022 at 11:29 PM
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Tell your mom she won’t have to worry about it being too sad because she’s not invited.
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Jacks · on January 26, 2022 at 12:36 AM
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Your Mom doesn't get to tell you how to feel about your loss. (Sorry for your loss). It's OK to have boundaries around what she says.
I would go ahead with the bouquet charm and the note in the program for him. Mark the moment in any way that feels good for you. Personally, I don't think that's too much, to answer your question.
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Lunajay · on January 26, 2022 at 12:48 AM
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That's kinda *&#$ for YOUR MOM to say. FH had a stillborn as well in a passed relationship but we still include her (his kids from pass relationships are my kids too). A Wedding is about you and him that to me that includes anyone/anything y'all have together. No I don't think its too much either.
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Lunajay · on January 26, 2022 at 12:54 AM
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ONG I refuse to have anyone at my wedding that has anything negative to say. I dropped a bridesmaid because she said I need to have FH pay any budget I wanted and if he didn't he wasn't really willing to do what it takes to care and provide for me... @*$!% had it coming.
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Melinda · on January 26, 2022 at 12:19 PM
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Ugh, I'm sorry you're having to go through this so close to your day! I would just tell her you will not have any further discussions about it. Every one grieves and handles things differently and that is a big loss for you and FH.
I also don't think it's too much. Memorial tables, etc. are actually quite common. Do what feels right for you and FH to honor your child.
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Zully · on January 26, 2022 at 2:16 PM
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That’s terrible, I am so sorry. This is YOUR wedding so do whatever YOU want. I think it’s so sweet that your including him in this way!
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Kris · on January 27, 2022 at 11:33 AM
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I think that that is horrendously selfish of her. She has no right to dictate how your FH and you grieve over your son.
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