Mom doesn't want anything to do w/ bridal shower

Is she jealous? Does she dislike your fiancé?

I would talk with her about how you feel. I can't imagine my mommy not wanting to help plan my special day. I'm so sorry:-(

Get lunch with her and ask her straight out what the problem is. If you don't clear this up now it's only going to get worse.

I think you need to straighten it out instead of pushing wedding stuff in her face. Get down to the real problem and take it from there. Maybe have a nice lunch together or go out and get a coffee. There has to be a reason she is acting the way she is, especially if you use to be close to each other.

Go and talk to her - and not just about the wedding.

From just this little bit it sounds like she wants to be the only one planning and once someone else is on board, she loses interest. Everyone's advice here is great

I think it's because your wedding date is so far away still. Some people don't realise how far in advance we start planning.

Have you asked her what's up? That's such a bummer you feel that way Could she be jealous of your relationship with your FMIL?

I think you should definitely point blank ask her and tell her much you want her a part of your wedding planning. Maybe she doesn't know. Maybe she thinks you value everyone else and not her. It sounds like jealousy but to be sure take her out and talk to her and let her know how you really feel.

Honesty. My mom was like this, and then we talked things over. I told her what I needed from her, she said what she needed from me. Things are better now. Not perfect, but better.

I would highly suggest you have a deep conversation with your mom and find out her unhappiness about your engagement.

It's still too early to plan a bridal shower.

I think people don't really get involved as much until closer to time. Honestly we have barely discussed my shower and we are 5 months out. People just don't get excited until like 1 month before an event.

Maybe you need to have a heart to heart with your mom, and not just about the wedding. Share how you are feeling and ask her if something is bothering her.

Also, I agree with PPs that your wedding is still quite far away. Most people (aside from the couple) would probably find it hard to show enthusiasm this far out from the date.

It might be because the wedding is kind of far away still. I had a really hard time with this when I first got engaged. I was SO excited about everything but no one else seemed to care and its because the wedding wasn't for another 15 months. 15 months is a really long time to be involved and excited every time you bring up the wedding for. Once I realized that I tried not to bring up the wedding unless asked and that's how I knew who I could talk to about it.

That is a terrible situation to be in, but on the bright side Atleast you get to do what you want!

I'm going through something like this too! I think the others have given great advice. I hope it works out well for you.

Agree that you have been given some good advice but it is WAY the heck to early to be planning the shower. maybe she feels like it was taken away from her when no one should be planning anything yet.