Mom doesn't think i should book wedding

Your wedding is your day to marry your soulmate. If you are OK with the people not coming if they don’t want to then I would book it for May because they may talk about it or they may be upset but at the end of the day this is about you and you have to take the traditions away from your mind and you have to take everyone else’s opinions away and focus on what makes you happy because if you spend your whole time making other people happy you’re not going to enjoy your life and you’re going to resent . At the end of the day if they do talk to only do it for a little bit and then when another crazy drama thing comes around it’ll be all over with but that will be on them if they don’t go you have to do what’s best for you you can’t hold off your future because other people are not wanting to be there I am dealing with the same situation I booked a cruise wedding in December if my cruz decides to go aboard with it then I am doing it and I do have close family That most likely won’t go and I personally don’t care because it’s my wedding this is the date it happens and when we come back I’ll be sure to celebrate it in another way

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your support!! My in state family says they will still come despite it not "being safe" then I just keep thinking Omg if they do get the virus I'll feel guilty forever!!

It's your wedding, your decision. You really can't put your entire life on hold for the Covid. Venues are gradually starting to open so why not book the date you want it if it's that important to you and your fiance? Those who want to come will do what they can to make it happen.

View Quoted Comment So that’s you thinking for yourself and that’s perfectly fine if you do think that they may get it if they do come then if you feel comfortable postponing definitely do that but please think for you in your future soulmate that is one thing that I regret was not being up front

It’s not selfish at all and I think it’s smart to book seeing as things are booming out for next year 😊

I don't think it's selfish at all. You can always do a celebration/get together or some kind later on with those who choose not to attend (if you'd like). If you're worried about possibly exposing your guests to the virus, you can always let them know to bring (or provide) masks, hand sanitizers, etc. It's totally up to you.

I think not doing things for over a year out of fear is unreasonable. No one can tell us with 100% certainty what's going to happen with the virus, but we also can't live with zero plans for over a year. It's unreasonable. I would plan for 2021 and if things get better by then, they'll come! If not, you'll still be married to your favorite person and it'll be wonderful all the same!

Personally, I would book the date for next year if that’s the date you and your fiancé want. There’s no real way to know what next spring will be like and I wouldn’t hold off planning and making decisions out of fear. Hopefully you get a date you love and your family can make it - only time will tell!

Not selfish at all. Only you and your FH can dictate your wedding plans and no one else.

I don’t think that’s selfish at all! Dude there’s no knowing when things would be 100% safe at all and sometimes you just gotta keep going with life.

COVID will be around for years. Even if with a vaccine being made available next year it could take another couple of years to perfect it. I say you do it in 2021 and not obligate anyone to come or have someone record live so that those that are out of state could still feel part of your big day.

Book the date that you two want. Either way it will be special. Whoever comes great! Whoever doesnt, it's their loss.

You’re not selfish at all! My fiancé and I are proceeding with our wedding this August. We are taking extra safety precautions, but at the end of the day, these are adults who can decide for themselves whether or not they want to come or not. We know we might end up with only half of our guest list, and that’s okay with us. Like another bride already mentioned, it could be a long time before things are even close to normal again, and it is not selfish to want to move on with this chapter in your life. Best of luck to you!

We planned wedding with no idea their would be a pandemic. No one can every predict what the future will hold. I’d plan and realize you may need to switch in the future in case your state has lock downs again.

Look...not to be insensitive but there will be people still worried about this virus in 2024 lol and as with anything else you cant please everyone. There are sooo many couples planning weddings for May. Not selfish at all and most likely the situation will be gone by then. Its their choice to not come but at the end of the day I truly think you would be the one making the logical decision. Hope it works out!