moh wont respond after several texts

I wouldn't be too worried about her not responding when you ask for her opinion. It's not the bridal party's job to make decisions about your wedding. Plus not everyone is comfortable giving an opinion on something as important as a wedding. It's only really a red flag if your MOH seemed to completely stop caring about your friendship. I imagine that due to the time zone differences you guys might not have texted everyday prior to her being MOH... so do you both still talk as often as you used to? About the things you used to? Try texting her something that has nothing to do with the wedding. See if she responds.

I would tell the bridesmaids they can plan a bachelorette if they'd like to.

Maybe she just isn't into the wedding planning side of things? Maybe take a break from wedding chat with her and just focus on your friendship. Then the wedding weekend will be more fresh and hopefully she can join you in the excitement!

For your bachelorette, chat with another bridesmaid about it.

You dont' get a bach party unless someone offers to throw you one. I would stop pestering her - she's made it clear that she is busy. That doesn't mean she doesn't care about your wedding. Just give her the important info (where to be and when). You dont' need her opinions on anything else.

I am sorry, but when someone takes on the role of being a MOH- they should expect the fact that they are going to have to talk about wedding planning and be there to support the bride. Being a MOH is not simply standing up closest to the bride on the big day. When she took on this role, she committed to that. so fellow bride, you have every right to expect her to participate and answer a text message- ESPECIALLY two weeks out!

While I can understand why you feel unsupported and lost when your MOH isn't being as helpful as you had hoped but you also have to understand that not everyone is capable of being there all of the time.

I say ask your MOH if she'll be able to handle the bachelorette party planning, if she says she's too busy...put another bridesmaid in charge or even a close friend or family relative. Give your MOH a checklist of the things she'll need to do on the day or week of your wedding and then let it go. You can't control other people's lives and if they're truly busy i'm sure you can relate when you're in the process of planning your wedding.