moh upset wont be able to bring baby

I think you just need to be honest with her. Most of my bridal party has children and we are having no kids also. They have all figured out a plan. She may be disappointed but will likely have fun being able let her hair down and have fun at the wedding.

Is there a reason her parents can’t baby sit while she is at the wedding? I know this is a touchy subject for a lot of people. Personally I told my sister when she told me she was pregnant “uh you know the baby can’t come to the wedding right?” (AFTER congratulations!) And she was just “oh no of course, I need to be able to drink!” My niece will be one and while it would be great to have her it’s just a hard age! Maybe you could invite one if her parents to help out during the day? (I know this goes against etiquette inviting only half a couple but maybe in this situation it’s an idea?) Or see show she feels about hiring a child care professional to be onsite?

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No her parents would watch the baby while she was at the wedding. I think she just thought the baby would be there and had the idea of having matching outfits etc. I would not feel right just asking one parent but like I said if I invite both , I have to invite the brother as he can not be left without either parents. I told her already she said okay but she sounded very sad so I think I feel a little guilty and it is just making me feel like a bad friend.

View Quoted Comment Ah, ok that make a more sense. She may be disappointed but how disappointed would you be if the baby screamed over your husband’s “I do” and that was immortalised on the wedding video? Hopefully she’ll get over it or realise she have more fun if she can let her hair down. I feel this get over used a bit, but it is your day (you and your partner) so try not to feel guilty. You’re within your rights to not invite children and I agree inviting her entire family is getting out of hand

A baby’s basic needs are more important than your vision. Infants literally need their mothers, that’s why they’re typically the exception to the no children rule. Is this really important enough to you that you’re willing to not have your closest friend at your wedding over it?

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She did not say she would not attend my wedding and her baby would be cared by her grandmother while her mom would be at the wedding. I do not mind her being an exception to the rule but how will it work if the baby is crying but she is suppose to be walking down the aisle, standing beside me, giving a speech etc. I do not have enough space to invite her entire family to the wedding to care for the child.

View Quoted Comment If the friends baby is currently 1, and her wedding isn’t until April 2020, it’s not an infant, at that point it’s an almost 2 year old. Very fair that this isn’t the exception to no kids.

You just need to tell her no. She's going against your wishes and asking you to spend hundreds of extra dollars.

By the time your wedding rolls around this child will be almost two- more than old enough to spend a few hours away from mom. Grandma and grandpa could easily take the child for a night. I would suggest gifting them a gift card to help cover a "date day" with the baby as thank you and to help smooth things over. If you let her bring her child it will only create animosity amongst your guests who couldn't bring their kids.

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Yeah that is what I was worried about because I have other friends and family with small kids and they will feel like she is getting special treatment. Its been so hard having to tell people no and stand my ground on my decisions.

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You're just going to need to be firm with her. You have your reasons and she needs to respect them.