moh troubles

I think i would first off just talk to her in terms of what your expectations are, and how she's doing, etc.

maybe she's got a lot going on in her life right now that you don't know of and she's out of focus? for instance one of my MOHs was deep in pharmacy school and she was so stressed already so she straight up couldn't do as much as she would have liked as an MOH.

I literally had the same post recently. As far as planning the wedding, that should be volunteered since the wedding party has nothing to do it with it but the dress shopping (at least when it comes to finding hers), should be of importance and she needs to be helpful and vocal in any way possible. I was advised to really try to sit down with her and see if there is any underlining issue that she may be facing.

Honestly, if there's no real good reason as to why she's giving you so much trouble, it just might be that time for you guys and then politely let her know if that she wants nothing to do with it that you will need to remove her and that she can still attend your wedding as a guest if she so wishes. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your advice. I will say though I that she keeps me pretty updated with her life, we talk regularly and I'm there for her through the good and the bad. Its just whenever I need to talk to her about anything even if its not wedding related, I get the cold shoulder. I dont like pointing out the flaws in people especially my friends so im just trying to figure out how to go about it. Thanks again.

The only time to do this is if the friendship is over. It sounds here like it is, as though she is continuing because she does not know how to get out of it gracefully. Basic disinterest. It might come as a relief to her. And 8 months out is a fair time to redo things with others. ..
talk with her, and see what she says.

This is gonna sound harsh... suck it up buttercup, you need to talk to her. Before you do write down the things that are bothering you and then the things you expect from her.
A MOH is there to help / support you on your wedding day. They can help you in other ways but again you need to set your expectations up front.
Just know if you drop her from you BP, you may lose a friend for life. If at the end of your conversation she gives you an idea that she really wants out then ask her that. Give her the opportunity to drop out.
This has been a crazy year and like Melle said maybe she has something or a lot on her plate now. Have you reached out to see how she’s been or have you been wedding centric? Maybe she’s feeling neglected from you.
All in all you need to have a heart to heart and get it all out on the table. If you opt not to, then you’re stuck where you are.
Sorry if that was harsh, but it is sent with honest sincerity.

View Quoted Comment I agree, I honestly haven't been asking much of her. I've been doing all the hard work of planning and putting things together, all that I want is someone to bounce ideas off of and tell me if what I'm doing or wearing is disastrous other than my fiance and I thought that she'd be the person to do that with since she is my best friend. I guess im just gonna have to suck it up and talk to her about how I feel. Thanks

It’s your special day if u wanna kick her out ur wedding go ahead that’s your day don’t let nobody make u feel bad

View Quoted Comment Not harsh at all, I appreciate the bluntness. Although i will say in my defense I'm not neglecting her. Like I said in my response to Melle we talk regularly about what's going on with her life whether its good or bad and I'm there for her and try to help out when I can or celebrate if its something good.. the problem when I talk to her and need her help even if its not wedding related I get nothing back. I really haven't asked much from her but it seems like she doesn't really want anyway. I'll just suck it up and talk to her. Again I appreciate your input, thanks!

From your comments, it sounds as though this is a one sided friendship. You are there for her when she needs anything, but she does not reciprocate, wedding related or not. I think you need to take some time and think about the friendship and whether you wish for it to continue. If you do want to still have a friendship with her after all of us, I would not demote her or remove her from your wedding party. If anything, I would promote one of the other bridesmaids to co-MOH.

View Quoted Comment Sadly sometimes friendships are one sided, sometimes equal. As much as you don’t want to you just need to have the honest conversation with her

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I totally get it. Out of all my girls, she's been the least helpful or vocal about anything even when I've asked her multiple times regarding bridesmaid dresses.

View Quoted Comment This! This is exactly what I was just saying. I hate that it’s happening!