Hi everyone, so I am in need of some help. I have two MOH's they are both my cousins, but on different sides of my family. One is older, very helpful, and supportive. She does live far from me and she is super busy with school and working two jobs. However she has already done alot of planning. She took a trip with me to New York to find my dress.
My other MOH is young and she........*sign* Its like she was excited at first to be in it. She was suppose to do my engagement party. However she had to change it after her boyfriend's car accident( totally understand). Then she just never tried to make plans to do it again. Then she said she wanted to do my bachlorette party, but I had already given that to my other MOH who had started planning it. I told her the plans and she said she didnt like it and didnt want to do it because she goes to the amusement park we were going to alot and she is bored with going there. I said we are still going because I havent been in a while, I really want to go.
Then came time for getting my dress. My young MOH offered to watch my son while I was out of town. So I drove to her city because I was flying from that city not my own. The plan was since my flight was at 5:25am, I drop off my son at her house with my car and she take me to the airport. Leaving her with my child and my car for the weekend. When I was on my way I told her I didnt have time to stop by her house, can she meet me at the airport. I offered to pay for a lyft to get her there. She told me she would even though she had been up drinking, it was early in the morning so I heard her tell her boyfriend " I am going to take a nap." I started calling her at 4am. Nothing. I didnt hear from her till 5:38am. I told her I had missed my flight and she was just like "Oh crap". I had made other plans for my son by then got on the plane and didnt hear a thing from her again for 5 days. She texted she was sorry I didnt go on my trip to get me dress. Which I did. After that I didnt hear from her for 2 months.
I finally hear from her in time to ask all my bridemaids to go pick out their dress. Its a different style up top. Yet same color, fabric, and length. She calls me to ask if she can wear the dress she wore at her mothers wedding because its the same color and she doesnt have the money for a dress. I wasnt up set with that, I told her we could use it as a backup. We still have a little time so maybe we could get a dress that was like the other girls. Then she tells me she just doesnt want to spend $200 on a dress she only wears once. Thats when I mentioned she spent more on her friends wedding and got into a big fight at her wedding and they dont speak anymore. She said that was different.
I dont know what to do. I love my cousin like a little sister, we are the closest thing to sisters for each other. Honestly, I do want her in my wedding. Most of our family will not be there due to their religious beliefs, so I value her support. However, I kinda want to ask her to be a hostess and just wear the dress she wants. Is that mean? I dont want to hurt her feelings but I getting exhausted from the drama.
