moh replacement

I think it would be weird for the next person you ask, knowing they were the B option?

Short answer: it's not cool.

It's not a salaried position or anything, plus that just causes issues with a hierarchy of friendship.

No, no one wants to be someone’s second option.

View Quoted Comment It was always between the two of them anyways.. they are not friends either. But the one i choose was suppose to be my best friend and she didnt even give me a reason why she didnt want to be a part of this day. she doesnt want any part of it at all. i tried talking to her but she just avoids me so idk. i talked with my new MOH and made sure she was ok with everything and explained to her what happend.

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Seems like you already replaced her so why ask the question...

If you had already replaced her, why ask?

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Totally agree with this.

I went through a very similar situation. My MOH dropped out of the wedding in June. She didn't want to be involved at all. I talked with her and tried to accommodate her needs for MY wedding. Needless to say, it still didn't work and she dropped out. I never replaced her because personally it didn't feel right to me. I still have my 4 bridesmaids, and happy with that!

View Quoted Comment Ok thanks. i was debating whether or not to replace her but in the end i feel like i did what was best for my needs

I'll never understand the posters who pose an inflammatory question and then essentially only respond to the one poster who agrees with them in any way.

At any rate, it sounds like you had things figured out before you asked this question--were you looking for validation in replacing your MOH?

View Quoted Comment I dont need validation. im happy with my decision. i should have rephrased the question then since it wasn't clear. i didnt respond to other posts because nothing was said that i needed🤷🏽‍♀️. on any platform i can choose to respond to whatever i choose🤷🏽‍♀️..
I should have asked if anyone had gone thru something similar and what did they do. does that makes sense?

I think this depends on the situation! I definitely see the point of the other comments on here who feel it may be rude or hurt the other MOH feelings like she was "B list" but I went through a very similar situation:

Roughly 4 months before my wedding my MOH/sister decided she no longer wanted to be involved in the wedding. I did have another bridesmaid who I had a personal conversation with where I explained sister was no longer in the wedding and if she could help me with some of the things sister was originally handling? Things like a reception toast, holding the ring at the ceremony, etc. She gladly said of course and understood where I was coming from on this. I never actually made a title change and asked her to be my MOH or called her my MOH but it was almost an "understood" and I'm so happy she was there for me

I actually did.

My original MOH was still in our wedding, as a bridesmaid.

I have always said, that I made a mistake when I picked the MOH (I have said it to both ladies), I chose my best friend - who I talk to everyday. Not a bad decision, but wasn't the right decision for me. The right decision was my sister/friend - she is my friend who I have known for all my life, & I lived w/ at one time. I don't see her often, & she had a LOT going on personally.

When my original MOH backed out she actually backed out of the entire wedding. My MOH took over the same day, it was barely an ask more like - well good now I get to be the MOH lol.

A few mos. later my original MOH said that she wanted to be in the wedding as a bridesmaid, that my MOH was the right decision, but that she felt weird not being in the wedding.

They both planned my bachelorette party.

Every situation is different.