MOH PREGNANT....

I'm sorry, that must be disappointing it will all be okay though even if she can't make it to the big day. If I were you I'd have a replacement MOH but have her included in all of the decision making. Having it be a question whether or not she will be there will be too stressful

DO NOT have a replacement MOH like Sally suggested. I would be hurt if I was replaced like a prop in a wedding.

Let her worry about the dress and it fitting. She can even get something off-the-rack, last minute that matches in color and length if she is up to being in a wedding, in July, newly delivered or about to burst. Will it suck that she may not feel up to being there? Yes, but let her absence fill your hear with joy because it means she is doing something that is so much greater than being in a wedding....she is being a mom. If you guys were hoping to be pregnant at the same time... a year from now, and she has been TTC for a bit...that would mean another entire year of NOT getting pregnant. I'd let go of that. She doesn't have to wait a year after trying and desperately to get pregnant. Your prayers were literally answered.

ETA: Do NOT replace her. If she is there, awesome...but really there is nothing a MOH or BM is required to do...no decisions fall on them... replacing her for having a baby is flat cruel.

Do not replace her. That's just rude. Have you asked her what she wants to do?

You get one day. One. Be happy for your friend. End of story.

You just having a moment. That's your best friend be happy for them, if she is unable to be there that will still be your best friends. Don't "REPLACE" her at all.. Be a friend first your wedding should come second.. Now once you get over your moment talk with her non wedding related and check her on often pregnancy is a beautiful thing but it can be hard from some.

You dont have to replace her. Let her wear a different dress in the same color or a different one from your other bridesmaids and it can be an empire waist or something that will allow her to grow. If she ends of missing your wedding, it isn't the end of the world. Things happen. I am sure everyone will understand the situation.

Does she want to still be in the wedding? If so, you should just leave it up to her whether she is able to come out not. Due dates are not an exact science!

Either way, definitely do not replace her. If she can't be there, you'll have one fewer bridesmaid there that day. For the dress, if you pick something that's loose fitting with an empire waist, she'll fit into it either way.

I understand she's your best friend. I can't lie...I'd feel equally excited for her and disappointed that the timing didn't work out for the wedding. Of course it's MOH's call, but unless she's local to your wedding and feels up to it, I wouldn't put pressure on her to be there. If she's still pregnant, she might be awfully uncomfortable but there's still a chance she'll want to go (if she's local). If she's postpartum for a week or so...she's going to be dealing with so much. I don't know what mothering is like but from my female relatives and friends' experiences, nursing, sleep schedules, hormonal changes, post-delivery body issues for mom...make it a rough couple weeks at least. Of course some moms breeze through.

I probably would not do a "replacement" MOH...it just doesn't seem right. I'd leave the door wide open for her to be the honor attendant absolutely. But I'd also really just let her call the shots on what she's comfortable with. She's not going to know until MUCH much closer. Deal with your own emotions privately (I completely understand)...be happy for her. Continue having fun planning your own big day!

Talk to your MOH how she feels with still being MOH. Go out for lunch and discuss and if she feels she can't do it find a replacement. Don't make quick decisions right now. Talk to her first.

I think you're handling this is right-- it is disappointing for you, exciting for her, so vent it here where she can't here you. Having kids of my own, I can assure you-- a year or two age difference in your kids won't matter in the long run. Yes, a newborn and a 2 year old are vastly different, but a 3 and 5 year old are less so, and a 12 and 14 year old even less.

Alexandria, that's just gross. You do not replace wedding party members. Ick.

Alexandria, how would you like it if you were just replaced like a prop?

It is 100% okay to feel this way. If she is unable to make it, it'll definitely suck but it won't be the end of the world. I had a very pregnant bff for my wedding. I was worried as well. I let my girls choose colors & dresses specifically so she could buy one last minute & not be out money if baby A came early. She was luckily able to attend but it would've went on if she hadn't.

Do not replace her! Talk with the consultant at the salon you get your dresses at and explain the situation. They have dealt with pregnant bridesmaids before. Just be happy for her!

Ask her! Not now but after the holidays. Go out for coffee and reiterate your excitement. Ask her how she feels about the wedding. Let her know you still want her as an MOH but you realize she'll either be very pregnant or have a newborn. Let her decide.

A family friend got married. The grooms sister had a baby the day of their wedding! She decided to step out of bridal party but had the baby not come she still would've attended.

Alexandria, no. Noooo. How can you replace your nearest and dearest?

OP, you'll have to be really flexible, but in the long run people matter more than one day and baby trumps weddings unfortunately. Just be happy for her!

OP, I don't know any new mothers of a one week old who would be able to devote an entire day to a wedding, best friend or not. The transition to motherhood is so utterly life shattering. You can't predict how she will feel and neither can she. Hopefully you can negotiate a backup plan with her. A second bridesmaid should be able to step in to fulfill any important MOH duties for the day of the wedding. She can still retain her title in the program, on your website, in the planning, etc. I would get used to the idea that she probably won't be present, though. Be a good friend and don't pressure her into agreeing to be there. She may regret it if she's got a dozen stitches on her vjay and she hasn't slept in days...

This is an honest conversation you'll have to have with her. I know a lot of ladies who have recently had babies and I know none of them would be in a wedding one week post birth. And probably not even attend, honestly. And if she doesn't happen to not pop before then, depending on her pregnancy and risk levels, she will likely get induced within 1-2 weeks after her due date. She may have to sit this one out. As hard as it is, it's a big time for her as well. But I definitely understand you being upset. I couldn't imagine my wedding without my sister being my MOH and I could NEVER replace her.

Why are there STILL recommendations to replace bridesmaids/MOHs? This question gets answered daily and it's the same response; it is rude to replace someone in your bridal party, regardless of your reasoning. Period.

OP, talk to your MOH, see how she feels. She may not want to attend that close to her due date. She may try to be there, even if she decides to attend as a guest. She can handle the dress, she can handle her attendance. If she decides against, it's not a knock against you, but because she's entering a new phase in her life. Support her, be happy for her, and do NOT replace her.

Omg Sally!!??? Really??? Wtf is your problem? You can't replace her ! That is rude AS FUCK! OP, I know you are happy for her, and bummed at the same time. I hope she is able to make it to your wedding. But if she can't she will be there in your heart. That's all that matters .