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moh not wearing moh dress

Jessie, on March 8, 2021 at 11:07 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 10

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Hello all,
So my hubs and I got married in September in a beautiful small ceremony. and we're having our reception May 28th.
We're doing most of what we originally planned (covid permitting), minus the ceremony. We originally wanted to get married on the rooftop of our venue, so now we plan on doing our photos up there. My sister/MOH told me she's rethinking wearing her bridesmaid dress because of weight gain. I get it, I gained weight too and will probably have to get a corset back put into mine. She hasn't even tried the dress on yet, and hasn't looked into getting it altered. I offered to have her go with me for a dress fitting so she could do hers as well. How would you feel if your MOH did this? This goes with her personality, she tends to make things more complicated then it has to be. I don't want to be pushy. But as many 2020/21 brides probably understands, it sucks when your wedding plans have been screwed in every possible way. So I just don't want to worry about her wearing her dress not.

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Latest activity by Peyton, on March 8, 2021 at 10:50 PM

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Judith · on March 8, 2021 at 11:10 AM
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How many others in the wedding do fit into their dresses
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Jessie · on March 8, 2021 at 11:12 AM
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I have 3 total in my bridal party. As far as I know, 1 other is a little worried but will get it altered to fit her.
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Veronica · on March 8, 2021 at 11:58 AM
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I would sit her down and explain that you plan on having your photos taken so it is important for her to wear her dress. Maybe offer to go with her for alterations or pay for them if that's a concern for her.
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Katie · on March 8, 2021 at 12:42 PM
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I agree with this. I'd talk to her about how important it is to you.
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Katie · on March 8, 2021 at 12:45 PM
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Also another thing to add, I'd have her try on the dress first, see how it looks and then if it could use some alterations talk to her about going with you when you do yours. I know it's important to you but you do want her to be comfortable in the dress. If she is uncomfortable and having pictures taken of her you may see her uncomfortabness in the pictures.
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Heather · on March 8, 2021 at 4:07 PM
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I can see where both sides are coming from. From your side it's because it means a lot to you for your day especially when you would like your pictures taken. As for her maybe she doesn't want to try on the dress because she does not want to see how much different she looks in the dress now which is totally understandable. However, you guys should have a heart to heart with each other on how you both feel about this. That way you guys can understand where you are both coming from and offer solutions or come up with compromises.
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Amanda · on March 8, 2021 at 8:10 PM
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I wouldn’t push it. She’s clearly uncomfortable and insecure and I’m sure the last thing she wants to do is have to try on a dress she knows doesn’t fit. Ask her what her ideal outcome would be and look into contacting the company for a return for different size. They can be understanding given everything in 2020.
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Rachael · on March 8, 2021 at 8:41 PM
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I did the same thing, backyard wedding in September, but we all wore cheap casual dresses off amazon and had already planned to wear our real dresses this May. One girl is now pregnant, but is going to get it altered. I'd just tell her you planned for her to wear the bridesmaid dress. It's your day, we've been through enough don't be scared to stand up for yourself!
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Jessie · on March 8, 2021 at 9:16 PM
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Thank you! I think I'll have to do that. I wouldn't even mind if she wore another dress of the same shade, but I'm scared that she won't be able to get one in such short period of time. It was from a local shop, and it was hard enough to find a dress she liked the first time.
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Peyton · on March 8, 2021 at 10:50 PM
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Would she be open to working with you as a team where you both try to eat healthy and work out and be accountable to each other? You could do a nutritional meal plan together, do workouts together, do yoga, go for walks, try new healthy recipes....? Just some ideas to make you both feel confident, look your very best, and grow closer in your relationship. Good luck!
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