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Fabiana
Dedicated June 2016

MOH not walking down the aisle...?

Fabiana, on May 26, 2016 at 1:07 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 21

My sister, who is also my MOH, broke her leg 2 weeks ago. She is getting her cast taken off THE DAY BEFORE her flight but will have to wear a boot until she gets back home and checked out by her doctor. Even though the cast is coming off, she needs to keep off her foot so she'll have crutches. My question is, would it be weird to have her standing at the alter as the rest of the bridal party walks down the aisle? Or should I have her walk down with the best man,? That way she can support herself on him instead of walking down with crutches

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Latest activity by Fabiana, on May 26, 2016 at 9:10 AM
  • MrsF2B
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    Ask her what she'd prefer.

    It might be kindest to give her a seat at the front.

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  • Rebecca
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    Aww poor girl! How long is your ceremony? As someone who has broken bones in their leg/foot it might be hard for her to stand for 20+ minutes.

    Maybe have a reserved seat for her so she will be more comfortable like MrsF2B suggested!

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  • Fabiana
    Dedicated June 2016
    Fabiana ·
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    @MrsF2B I asked her and she said she'll do whatever I prefer. I don't want her to feel like her role isn't important if I chose to have her not walk.

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  • Fabiana
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    @Rebecca F the ceremony is about 30 minutes long. Where would I put the seat? At the alter? Sorry silly question, but I've never been in or to a wedding before.

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  • Miss.MtoMrs..K
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    Just an idea have a pretty seat for her to sit at the alter if possible. I broke my foot a few years ago I had one of those boots with air cast type of thing (sorry just don't know how to explain the boot) but I was able to walk and stand with it but do what makes her comfortable. If she wants to use her crutches to walk down how about decorating her crutches for day of? Sorry I wish I had more suggestions.

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  • Rebecca
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    I would just have one seat reserved for her on your first row of chairs!

    30 minutes is a long time for someone to stand for someone who hasn't broken their leg. I don't think she would feel like her role is less important if she doesn't have to walk down the aisle. Honestly, you're going out of the way to make her comfortable and happy so I think she would appreciate it!

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  • Mary
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    I broke my ankle in four places and got my cast off three days before a scholarship ceremony that had me standing for a little over 30mins while being recognized/giving thank you speech. She will definently appreciate a chair. Maybe you could have one at the alter waiting for her as she walks down the aisle?

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  • Isheefishee
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    If she is comfortable with it, could the Best Man carry her down the aisle and seat her on a chair at the alter?

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  • Jacks
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    I don't advise carrying, what he slips and she falls? Not safe. I would say have a reserved seat in the first row. She can be waiting up front while you walk down the aisle then quickly take a seat.

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  • Mrs.D
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    I vote a chair at the alter where she would've been standing. Do not have anyone carry her, that's stupid and dangerous and will draw more attention to her, and it's embarrassing. Would you want to be carried up the aisle in a dress? Let her get up there however she has been getting around (crutches, limping in a boot)

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  • melanie
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    I would put a chair at the alter if she is comfortable with that

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  • OMW
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    Chair at the altar!

    When I was a teenager, I broke my ankle so badly that, after going under to have bones shoved back into place, I ended up with a hot pink cast from my toes to my hip - they wanted my entire leg stable for over a month.

    2 weeks later, I was a bridesmaid in a floor-length dress. Solution? I actually sat near the piano (near the altar) and then I hobbled out after the last bridesmaid. Rather than crutches, it was decided (not by me) that I would have a granny walker instead of crutches for support. It was terrible. I needed either the crutches or to sit. I had crutches for the pictures, though.

    So, definitely ask her - but I think a chair is a good idea!

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  • Courtney
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    I would reserve a seat in front for her no matter what you do incase she has to sit. But ask her and let her chose what she wants to do and what she's comfortable to do.

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  • Chelsea
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    If she still wants to walk down the aisle I'd say let her, with the best man or with her crutches and then reserve a seat in the front row for her

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  • NowASeptMrs
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    Let her decide if she wants to walk or to be seated before it starts.

    I think seat at Altar where she would've been not in the front row. If she's in the front row she won't be in any of the pics during the ceremony except shots of the guests. I still think she should have her honored spot up front.

    It's altar FYI. Alter is to modify something.

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  • RealLindseyO
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    Do not have someone carry her! That is so ridiculous.

    Also, if she needs to keep weight off of it, just walking with the best man won't be enough support- she'll be hopping down the aisle in that case.

    I vote chair at the altar, and if she wants to, she can walk down the aisle on crutches.

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  • Jacqui76
    Master May 2016
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    I would give her the front corner aisle seat in the first row. I know that's a parent's seat but I would have given it to my MOH if she had been in this situation, and my parents would have agreed with that.

    I have broken my foot before and 17 years later it still hurts sometimes. I would say, do whatever it takes to make her as comfortable as possible.

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  • FutureMrs.G
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    One of my bridesmaids broke her ankle two years ago and developed a bone spur. She had to have surgery last month and was worried that she'd have to be in a cast/boot for my wedding because she didn't want to "ruin things." I told her I didn't care if she was on crutches or in a wheelchair, I was thrilled to have her with me and it would not "ruin" the wedding. If she wanted to step down because she would be uncomfortable, then I would have understood. I made sure she knew that I supported her in whatever decision she made.

    She has been healing really quickly and she's about to start walking without a boot, but still with the help of crutches. I'm going to leave the decision on the day-of to her. If she is sore and thinks she'll want a chair, then I will have one made available for her (even if she says she does not want one, I may still have one off to the side for her in case she decides she needs it while she's standing up there). It's ultimately her decision and I just want her to be comfortable. Obviously, I'm on team "have a chair ready at the altar and let her use her crutches because she'll probably need them." Just make sure that she's comfortable.

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  • Erin381
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    I would not plan on having her support herself on someone rather than crutches. And dont plan on someone carrying her - she isnt a child and that is a recipe for disaster. I would just let her get situated at the end of the aisle and let everyone else walk- and the chair is an Excellent plan

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  • BicycleBuiltForTwo
    Master September 2016
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    Ask her. I would just use the crutches, because I am pretty quick with them.

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