moh Issues

This is going to be lengthy but I really want to here from some of you if you think I’m reading to far into this. First let me say this my MOH is my best friend of over 30 plus years. I don’t even consider her a best friend anymore, she’s basically my sister. Originally my wedding was to take place on July 25th of 2020 but due to Covid it was cancelled and I was distraught. Me and the FH decided we didn’t want to wait to get married any longer so we are going to have a micro wedding on November 7th of 2020 which is literally a few weeks away.


The ladies in the bridal party started dress shopping in January and finalized dress purchases in early February of this year. I did tell my MOH that her dress didn’t have to be the same as the other maids, just the same color and to let me see the dress before making the purchase. So needless to say she didn’t find a dress at the same time everyone else did. No worries, I figures she had a little time so it wasn’t pressing at the moment.
As it began to get closer to July, I would check in with her to see if she’s found anything and when she did, she sent a pic to me, the dress was beautiful and she was to move forward with the purchase. Due to Covid the dress was delayed in shipping and she didn’t receive it until May, the dress didn’t fit and it didn’t look as good as the pics so she no longer wanted that dress and wanted to find a new one, which annoyed the hell out of me because we were too close to the wedding date. The last week of May our venue cancelled all events for the rest of the year so we cancelled everything. We informed the bridal party and advised that we would make a decision on plans going forward within the upcoming weeks.
June 30th we finally decide to move forward with our ceremony for November 7th. My bridal party has been absolute Angels with being flexible and there for us throughout all this uncertainty. So everyone is on board but the MOH is back in the same boat of still looking for a dress and keeps telling me that she’s trying to lose a few pounds from the weight gained while we were quarantined. I’m back to being really annoyed as this now really leaves no real room for alterations if she needs them since she still does not have a dress. She’s had ample time to find a dress both times and I feel like she is just not taking this seriously as I think she should. She hasn’t had to do anything in assisting me with planning neither time as I know she has a lot on her own plate daily so all she had to do was get a dress.
Quite frankly I’m tired of asking every week has she found a dress as this is exactly what I was doing in the beginning of the year. I’m starting to think there is an underlying issue with her that I don’t know about. She seems happy for me but is she really? Is she just not feeling the wedding? Is she not happy with her appearance as far as her weight? (Which she was also mentioning alot in the beginning of the year) I just can’t figure it out. I really want to talk to her about it but I don’t want it to be an argument as that is the last thing I want to deal with at this point, all this has been stressful enough getting this far and a wedding is not enough for me to lose a 30 plus friend/sistership over. What do you all think?