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Futuremrsm, on July 22, 2019 at 11:00 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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So I have been friends with my maid of honor since elementary school. She got married in March and I was in her wedding. Before her wedding she was saying how she was excited for her wedding to be over so now we could focus on mine. But since her wedding she has been very distant. I'm not mad, I feel like she is going through a tough time. She doesn't want to talk about it when I ask, which is fine. But I'm not sure what to do. She keeps cancelling on plans and not answering my texts. She lives an hour away so I can't really show up to surprise and cheer her up without letting her know first. I just don't know what to do. I know she is going through something but I'm not sure how to handle it if she won't talk to me about it. Any advice?

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on July 24, 2019 at 8:14 AM

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Sarah · on July 22, 2019 at 11:02 AM
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If the date in your profile is correct, I’d just leave her alone for a bit.
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Melle · on July 22, 2019 at 11:05 AM
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So my MOH did that too in terms of she's kind of distant and like she won't talk about it because of what she's going through. She went thru a terrible break up the week before my wedding and she said she just wasn't ready to talk about it. So that's fine I get it but I think these kind of things are just like better to leave it alone and let them figure it out but make sure you tell em and they know that you're there for whenever they're ready
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Nikita · on July 22, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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If she's not willing to talk yet, then don't push her. Let her know that you'll be there for her when she needs you and give her some space. Then, in a month or two, check in.
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Sinéad · on July 24, 2019 at 8:14 AM
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Hey Erica! I’m sorry that you are going through this with your friend.
It’s entirely her decision when and if she wants to talk about what is going on with her. I know this can be hard because you just want to help her feel better but what you need to do is to just be there for her when she is ready to talk. Sometimes just knowing that someone is there is a comfort in itself. Perhaps you could try and plan to go out to lunch with her or something and not talk about what is going on with her, and not talk about your wedding either. If, as you say, something is going on with her then perhaps just taking her mind away from it for a while will be beneficial to her.
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