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Just Said Yes June 2019

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Tiff, on May 28, 2019 at 12:21 PM Posted in Planning 0 12

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10 days until the big day and so far my fiance and I have done everything ourselves with no help from our wedding party. And that's fine. But today I got a text from my MOH who is my FH sister. She asked if it was too late to bring someone to the wedding. He and I are both annoyed because we have given her every single opportunity to invite a guest and we sent our final count to our venue YESTERDAY. She wants to bring someone whom we dont know and she isnt dating. Just a fling. Are we wrong for telling her it's too late? We feel the time for this discussion has passed. She was offered a plus one. She said no. Even up until 2 weeks ago she was told she could invite a girlfriend if she wanted. Are we wrong? Are we being too harsh? Or is 10 days before the wedding a big ask for a guy who wont be around by the end of summer? I think if she had any involvement in actually helping we would be more willing to be inconvenienced by this, but that isnt the case.

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Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on May 28, 2019 at 2:18 PM

Champion October 2018
Kelly · on May 28, 2019 at 12:24 PM
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You aren’t being too harsh at all! Tell her the deadline has passed and you can’t make any changes as you’ve already given your numbers to the venue.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on May 28, 2019 at 12:27 PM
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No, you're not being too harsh. The final headcount has already been submitting, you cannot make any changes.
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Savvy June 2019
Alex · on May 28, 2019 at 12:31 PM
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Not too harsh at all, especially since she isn't dating the person.
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Master May 2021
Cristy · on May 28, 2019 at 12:33 PM
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Nope. Not harsh at all. You said yourself you gave her every opportunity to take advantage of her plus one and invite someone. Now it's too late. Sorry (not sorry!).
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VIP September 2020
Kelsey · on May 28, 2019 at 12:34 PM
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Not too harsh. You gave her plenty of opportunities to have a plus 1; she declined.
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Master August 2019
CourtneyBrittain · on May 28, 2019 at 12:37 PM
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Tell her that you’re sorry but you gave her several opportunities to bring someone and she declined. You gave the venue the final headcount and you can’t do anything to change that so it’s out of your hands.

Don't feel bad, this is 100% her problem and not yours.
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Just Said Yes June 2019
Tiff · on May 28, 2019 at 12:37 PM
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Thanks for your help, all! I don't want to be a jerk, but I also don't want the added stress of having to accommodate people because of a sudden change of mind. Because who's to say that it wouldn't change again? This is a great place to bounce thoughts and issues around without feeling judged and knowing you will get honest feedback.
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on May 28, 2019 at 12:46 PM
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I would just tell her it's too late, she had a long time to decide. Plus she will be busy the day of and that will be weird for her plus one.
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Super May 2019
Jessica · on May 28, 2019 at 12:51 PM
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Not at all!! This close to the wedding, she's nutso for even asking. Just be honest...you turned in the numbers and that's the truth. She'll be fine!
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Super October 2020
Fmv · on May 28, 2019 at 1:16 PM
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Nope not harsh at all! You said it yourself. You gave her plenty of opportunities to invite someone. I would just tell her you already sent in your final number count and cant add anyome
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on May 28, 2019 at 1:36 PM
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Your deadline for finalizing guest count has passed, so tell her exactly that! She dragged her feet and should have been more proactive if she wanted to bring someone
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Legend March 2017
Pirate & 60s Bride · on May 28, 2019 at 2:18 PM
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This. Totally agree.
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