moh hates her dress

Remind her it’s ur wedding day but what is about the dress she doesn’t like can it be altered?

View Quoted Comment She doesn't like the fabric it's made out of and the fact that its floor length.

I'm a little confused, did she not choose the dress? Did she like it in September and doesn't like it now? Or did you pick the bridesmaids' outfits for them?

Tell her it's your wedding and she only needs to wear it for ceremony and pictures. Tell her you'd suck it up for her if it was her wedding, she needs to do the same for you. I understand most people letting the bridesmaids pick out their own dress. I let my bridesmaids pick out their own dress, however my wedding isn't formal at all. I also get wanting them to be confident and comfortable. But at the same rate when you sign on to be in someone's wedding there are going to be certain things you are going to have to do that maybe you'd rather not. if they want you to wear a brown paper bag you got to suck it up and wear the bag. The original purpose of bridesmaids was to have people closest to the bride help her getting ready, going to the bathroom, holding the bouquet, etc. But nowadays it just seems like these bridesmaids are very selfish and feel it's more about themselves then the bride and actual add more stress to the bride.

It sounds like she really uncomfortable with the way that she looks and feels in her dress. Did you pick out the same one for all of your bridal party? I would sit down and have a conversation with her about why she dislike it, because I bet It's not as simple as she just doesn't like the fabric and length of the dress.

At this point I wouldn’t worry about it anymore. It’s your wedding and she has to wear it. You don’t need the stress right now so I personally would ignore it. It’s one day and she needs to get over it!

Unless your okay with her choosing another dress and she’s okay to buy another dress I’d tell her to get over it. She can either wear the dress and stop complaining or she can decide to no longer be in the bridal party. It sounds harsh but it’s your day and I have no patience for the bridal party drama. Get in line and smile or don’t participate.

View Quoted Comment I have to agree with this.


Bridesmaid dresses in general are not flattering on anyone with low end fabric. It doesn’t matter who picked the dresses, she is uncomfortable and her feelings are being discounted (as maid of honor isn’t she your best friend?) so it’s not out of the realm of the possibility that the friendship might not last after the wedding either.

If she’s the MOH it wouldn’t look strange or out of place if she wore a different dress than the rest of the BMs. I’d tell her if she’s that unhappy with the dress you are open to the idea of her purchasing a different dress in a color that is similar or complimentary to the rest of them, but you would want to ok the dress prior to purchase. Maybe she’ll find a great dress off the rack or from a major retailer that can ship it quickly.

There’s nothing else to say and I wouldn’t bring up or engage in any other convos about the dress. Send her and the other bridesmaids the info for the rehearsal and their wedding day “getting ready” timeline. Being a bridesmaid is voluntary. So, if she’s unhappy, she really doesn’t have to be in the wedding.

If she has had the dress since September and is only telling you about her issues now then I think you are right in asking her to suck it up and wear the dress. A lot of bridesmaids wear dresses they don't like.



From what you said, her comments are about disliking the dress as a dress, not how comfortableshe is in it. If her concerns were about it being too revealing, accentuating weight she is self-conscious about, or some other similar issue I would be on the side of letting her pick a new dress. Her being upset it is low quality fabric and floor length are not seriou concerns, just dislikes. If she asks about it or makes snide comments again, just tell her it is non-negotiable. Otherwise, ignore the passive aggressive comments and move on to other parts of the planning.

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In the OP she says that her friend voiced her dislike back when she got the dress and is bringing it up again now.

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I did pick out the dress and ask each girl if they liked it, all of them said yes. When she got it she was the first and did voice her dislike back in September but when I told her we can find a new one she said no. And when she became my Maid of Honor in December she asked if she needed to get a new dress, I said it was up to her. She said she was happy she didn't need to get another one which is why I am so confused with the situation.

View Quoted Comment I would just tell her if she really hates the dress then she is welcome to find another one - which she will need to pay for and you will need to approve

Ever want to turn to a BM or MOH, long term friend or not, and say
" Grow Up."

There are only a few outcomes /solutions: 1. She wears the dress and acts like a mature adult. 2. She wears the dress and acts like a brat and makes everyone around her miserable. 3. She gets a new dress. 4. She attends the wedding as a guest and not as part of the bridal party 5. She does not attend at all.

Tell her to focus on the solution and ask her what she wants to do. Also, ask her what she would want if she were in your shoes (if she was getting married and you acted like this). Good luck!

I'm afraid she needs to suck it up and wear it. She lost the right to complain when she said she was ok with it initially.

Let's be real - no one truly thinks bridesmaids dresses are all that flattering, nor do they generally suit everyone in the bridal part as well as each other. They're usually in a colour or fabric or style or SOMETHING you wouldn't choose yourself. But it's what the bride chose so you shrug your shoulders, put your big girl panties on and deal with it.

In the nicest possible way, you can always remind her that absolutely no one will really be looking at her anyway.

Or just say - well, you got to pick/will get to pick when it's your wedding, but this is my wedding and this is what I've picked. It's too late to do anything now, so unfortunately we're stuck with it. What a shame you didn't say anything before I bought it.

Tell her to get over it. She's had enough time to do something about it. It's one day and she can suck it up.