My MoH is getting married next year in Italy. We've known each other since freshman year in college and she was my MoH 6 years ago. She has been living abroad for the past 7 years so while we are still close, it's definitely dropped down to happy birthdays, holidays, and brief conversations here and there when time allows and I now have a 3 year old and 2 month old.
My dilemma is that she traveled to come to my wedding when she was in Spain at the time and I am so excited for her to get married, but I've just been so on the fence about what to do. I know she'll hopefully understand things have changed and now I really can't just up and leave my family for a week, or afford to take them with us (not even sure if it's a child friendly wedding). Logistically it's tricky, I haven't been away from my kids overnight yet and even though they'll be 4 and 16 months, I still don't feel comfortable leaving them and financially it isn't doable for us all to travel abroad for such a short time and we definitely couldn't afford to extend it into a family vacation.
Looking for advice on what to do, I really care about our friendship and I don't want her to feel obligated to say she understands and then for there to be resentment between us. I just feel so guilty since flew to my wedding and I am dreading that I'll likely have to say no to hers.
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