moh dying hair bright pink

Normally I’d say its her hair, her choice, doesnt really affect your wedding. But the fact she warned you and informed you she is doing it three days before the wedding means shes probably just trying to be obnoxious on purpose. I’d bring it up but it seems like shes just trying to push your buttons

I would let it go, its her hair she gets to do with it what she wants color wise. But I totally get where you are coming from. One of my bms has black hair with turquoise streaks. Ok I can deal. Then she decided to do the front strips and the underneath like high lighter green. My first reaction was like omg!! My wedding isn't until August, but I'm pretty sure she has no intention of going natural even then. But yea I'd be freaking out too if I were you with it being this close. You aren't out of line wishing she would wait. You could bring up your concerns to her, but its ultimately her choice.

You’re not wrong to wish, but you would be wrong to ask.

Bring up your concerns with her. As MoH she should be close enough to you to have a serious discussion. But realize that it's her choice and let it go at that point.

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Did she say why she suddenly wants to dye her a crazy color days before your wedding? I know my husband's sister cut her hair super short the morning of her sister-in-law's wedding because her sister-in-law was driving her crazy so when they were getting their hair done and she was asked how she wanted it done and told the stylist to chop it off. Thankfully she didn't do this for my wedding, but I also wasn't controlling like her sister-in-law was.

Personally, I would not want one of my bridesmaids/MOH with a bright pink hair style. I would talk to her about it.

Nooooooo Not for the wedding!! Not for the wedding!!! She will regret it later when she looks back through her memories... her wedding pics... you are her fiance and it's your wedding as much as it is her's... you have every right to voice your likes.. your dislikes and your concerns. Just tell her HELLL NOO! I mean if it's really that deep... If not then let it be and just enjoy your wedding!!

I have a similar situation, except my MOH asks me all the time what color I want her hair and how long she should have it (she currently has a pixie cut and she knows I don’t love short hair). I think it’s reasonable for you to ask her why she all of a sudden wants to change her hair right before your wedding, you could always say you are worried that the color of her dress may not be as flattering or something along those lines. With my friend, I told her it’s her hair and I don’t want to be that person that tells her to change its color or grow it out, but I do want to know what it’ll look like before my wedding. So not knowing would freak me out, not to mention if it goes wrong...I’ll assume bleach will need to be involved and you NEVER really know what’ll happen with bleach.

First, props to you for not demanding angrily that she change it - I've seen other people freak out much more over far less. I'm definitely always in the camp of her hair, her choice but it does seem odd. I guess it's good she gave you a heads up, but it doesn't really sounds like she was asking for your opinion/approval. Sucks, but I'd let it go unless she specifically asks or it comes up again...

Yeah, no. This is the apex of selfishness on the MOH's part to the point where I would question if it was deliberate. I would straight up ask her if there was a reason she couldn't wait 3 more days until after the wedding.

It might be MOH's body and MOH's hair, but she is choosing to make a major modification to it *3 days* before a huge event that is about her best friend, not her. Who does that?

If she has no good reason for why it needs to be before the wedding, I would ask her to wait the three days. If she says no, I'd tell her to attend as a guest. 100%.

There is no reason you should tell her she can't dye her hair. It's her hair and her choice. HOWEVER I agree with above comments that there is no reason she can't wait a few days to do it after your wedding. Dying hair a completely new color is a huge change that can, and often goes wrong, especially if they have never tried it before. I would share your concerns with her and ask if she wait until after the wedding to rock her new style!

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This this this. Her hair, her choice. BUT a first-time neon pink hair color 3 days before your best friend's wedding?? Honestly, it sounds like an attention thing....?? Perhaps she's wanted this hair color for a long time, and she truly wants to express herself via her hair color, but if she hasn't mentioned it before now to a best friend, it's hard to tell. Personally, I WOULD bring it up with her...not to flat-out forbid the hair dye, but just try to understand/see if she can delay the hair dye. Maybe there's a hairstyle or a sparkly hairpiece that she can wear (that will be special for the MOH position) instead of trying a drastic hair color change 3 days before the wedding? It'd be so embarassing for all involved if it turned out badly (because you never know how hair will react to a new color).

It IS kind of odd that it is is so specifically three days before. but honestly i would leave it be aha at least she warned you vs just doing it and showing up like that on the day of ya know?

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Exactly!! I'm glad someone understood what I was trying to say, I can never tell if I write things the way I think them haha!

View Quoted Comment Oh I understood! I think you said it perfectly, and it sounds like we are on the same wavelength!

I am sorry that your bridesmaid is wanting to do this to her hair. it sounds like she is trying to get attention I would encourage her to wait until after your wedding maybe go with her after your honey moon to get it done,

Sounds to me like she's just trying to get on your nerves. It's hard to tell someone what to do with their body cause they are free to do what they want cause it's their body nobody elses even when they are in the wedding. You could have a talk with her and try and see if she could do it the day after the wedding. She is your MOH so you should be able to get her to do it after the wedding is over. Just don't come off as a crazy controlling bridezilla. Hopefully she'll hold off until after.

UPDATE:


So she began showing me photos of this bright cotton candy hair and asked what I thought. I told her that I loved her and wanted her to feel beautiful, but that I was concerned that in photos people wouldn’t see a beautiful group of friends but that the eye would go straight to her hair (also, it’s my wedding and I want to be the center of attention, not the hair of the person beside me....I didn’t say that part though).
She explained that she has been wanting to do it for a while and they just opened a fundraiser at work where females can have crazy hair for one month if they donate to charity. Essentially she told me that she had already considered the wedding, but didn’t think that she would even be capable if having it as bright as she wanted because she’s not bleaching first. She told me she did not want to take away from me or the dress. Also, her stylist books months in advanced and she would miss the chance to have crazy hair if she rebooked.
But ultimately she is still moving forward with a crazy bright color. I suppose I did my due diligence. She knows how I feel and I hope she will keep that in mind. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Yikes, I guess it is what it is. It sounds like you handled the conversation in a very calm and mature way. I don't know that I would have handled it that well! In my opinion, it's unfortunate that it's been (apparently) planned for so long and she didn't mention it until recently. It's also unfortunate that she couldn't find another stylist with availability the day or week after the wedding. So I guess she'll only be able to have the hair color for one month, according to the rules of her workplace?