Hi Everyone,
My FH and I got engaged in December 2019 and have been planning our wedding for April 2021. Since the beginning of planning I have had my two closest friends by my side as my Co-MOHs (I'll just call them MOH #1 and MOH #2) with no issues whatsoever.
My FH and I only just moved in together in late June and a few weeks ago we invited all the bridesmaids to come over to our new place for a dress try on. Both of my MOHs live in WI, while myself and everyone else lives in IL, so they spent the whole weekend rather than just the one day and I thought everything went well and the weekend was great (very successful, dresses were picked!).
However, a week after the visit MOH #1 texts me about her concerns about my relationship and says that the MOH #2 agrees. I did speak with both separately to get their side and hear what they had to say before going silent and spending quite a lot of time thinking. I chose to message both together in our group chat (it is just the 3 of us) once I felt I had gathered my thoughts and emotions and asked them to just support me with my decision and that I was happy in my relationship. Now at this point both said they would support me "100% no matter what" and we could move on from this because they just wanted to at least let me know their feelings, which I am grateful for.
Fast forward 3 weeks and I was starting to notice that MOH #1 has not responded to any messages in our group chats (we have 2: one with all the bridesmaids and the one with just me and the MOHs), as well as direct messages from me. So I asked MOH #2 if she had any idea if MOH #1 was mad or upset with me, to her knowledge everything was fine. Then I messaged MOH #1 directly asking if she was upset with me to which she replies that she is.
Now, we texted back and forth over the course of a few hours where I'm just trying to understand what happened and she tells me I have handled the situation inappropriately and am making a mistake. Her exact words were "I can't support you not doing what's best for you, and I honestly don't think that's him." At this point, I did just out right ask if this meant she was dropping out of the wedding and she said "Yes." and has not responded to any other attempts to reach out.
I guess I really just want to know people's opinions on the situation, maybe if anyone has had any similar experiences and any ideas on how to move forward.
Note: My FH and I have been together for 2 years and with living in different states, both MOHs have collectively spent roughly 5 days with us together as a couple. Also, MOH #2 has continued to be supportive this whole time and is now feeling stuck in the middle because she also doesn't understand why MOH #1 is not being supportive like she said she would be.
Thank you!
