moh Dress Help

That's not crazy. a lot of people have flower girls match the color of bridesmaids dresses. so i don't see anything wrong for this case. just get what you want!

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Thanks - I didn't think this was a big deal but she's making me second guess myself. I was not sure I was missing something obvious!

That isn't crazy at all...I think your friend/MoH is being a bit ridiculous and needs to get with your program. It sounds like you've already been quite accommodating to her input...pretty selfish of her, IMO. I'm sorry you're dealing with that

I don’t think it’s crazy at all and the bottom line is that it’s YOUR wedding so you get to pick what you want. It sounds like she’s being dramatic. I would just ask her if she’s sure she wants to be in it and give her an out if not. Don’t let this ruin what you want for your special day

Your friend sounds a little dramatic. Tell her that it's not up for discussion and she's welcome to sit as a guest if she feels uncomfortable.

Thanks so much everyone! Getting engaged and trying to plan things during quarantine has left me a bit moody, to say the least! I needed a quick reality check to make sure I wasn't getting annoyed for no reason. I'm trying to pick my battles better these days!

Quite frankly and I'm sorry if this comes off rude... but your MoH kinda seems like a whack job and she needs to understand that this is your and your FH's wedding and the number one requirement of the MoH is to stand up there in the appropriate attire that the bride has requested.


You've already been gracious enough to change the color once so at some point she needs to suck it up and wear what YOU want her to wear. It's a few hours out of 1 day of her life. I've learned through my planning adventure that sometimes you have to put your foot down before your wedding becomes everyone else's vision and less and less like the day you've wanted... just my two cents...

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Thanks - I didn't feel like I was asking for too much! I'm over 40 so trying to keep things as simple and easy as possible. I've had a LOT more requested of me as a bridesmaid over the years!

View Quoted Comment Lol I totally get it. I'm a 40 year old first time bride and I got sucked into the trying to please everyone game and now the 40 person casual, laid back, wedding of my dreams has ballooned into 160 people and a little more uppity than my FH and I like... lol

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Haha yes, I get it! We intentionally picked a venue that maxes out at 100 for precisely that reason!

She is being completely unreasonable and acting like an 8 year old (pun intended).

If your MOH isn’t family I’d consider inviting her to choose her own dress as a GUEST and have a seat. It’s very selfish of her.

I am 40 as well, getting a vow renewal and arranging my first intimate wedding. Even my 20 year old daughter who loath any pink shade is okay with my choice of pink-blush colored bridesmaids dress. I feel sorry for you, but your friend sounds immature to me. It’s annoying when she is being dramatic just over dress color 🙄. It’s your wedding. You need to tell her that you like those color and you are going to stick with it, unless you want to let her use another dress 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Thanks everyone. As an update, I told her I wanted the wedding party to wear the same color and that I didn't think it was an unusual request. She replied that she would feel absolutely ridiculous and has backed out as MOH.

View Quoted Comment Wow... Somehow I am glad she backed out. In my opinion, she is the ridiculous one. Good for you!

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On the bright side, maybe now you can go back to the color you originally wanted anyway