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Gina, on September 17, 2021 at 2:47 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 9
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Hello all!!


Need some advice. My MOH has been kind of a handful from the jump. She’s had a bunch of issues from my wedding location, demanding a plus one (which I obviously obliged but now she’s questioning his attendance), problem with the shoes (which I basically said everyone pick their own nude shoe), and don’t even get me started on the vaccine drama. Anyways, I was planning to try to do as much DIY as possible, which is totally her jam. She made my save the dates and they came out beautiful and saved me a TON of money. The problem I’m having, is if there is anything she dislikes happening for the wedding she likes to list all the things she’s doing for me for the wedding. Then I feel guilty and end up caving to her desires. So, the time as come to begin looking at ordering my invites. The original plan was to have her make them as well, but I’m feeling uncomfortable asking help for anything if it’s going to be thrown in my face. What do you think? Should I suck it up, and save money in the process?

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Latest activity by Katelyn, on October 15, 2021 at 9:30 PM
  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Not if she is throwing it in your face. If so, then that means it isn't genuine. I honestly would just purchase the wedding invitations then you won't have to worry about feeling guilty or anything.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I think you’re looking at this correctly. Help isn’t helpful if it is used against you. Best to put a little distance between her and your planning.
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  • Melissa
    Dedicated March 2022
    Melissa ·
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    I would 100% order mine and not use her services. She is using her kindness against you to have the wedding of her dreams, not yours or your FHs
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    I would order invites from somewhere else. It'd be awesome of her to make them, but she doesn't get to make decisions for your wedding. It seems like she wants to use whatever help she gives you as a way to control details about your wedding, so I would avoid the drama and just spend the money elsewhere.
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I think you know everything you need to know about what will happen if you ask for more favors from her. None of that sounds like worth any potential money savings.

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  • Jacks
    Master September 2019
    Jacks ·
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    What Maggie said. Just do everything without relying on this person.

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  • Hannah
    Dedicated October 2021
    Hannah ·
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    Yeah, this is why I always recommend that brides rely on professional services for their wedding versus friends/family. You don’t want to be so reliant on her for key parts of your wedding (eg invitations) if she’s the type of person to throw it in your face to get her way. Nope. She’s cut off in my opinion and you shouldn’t rely on her much more, which is sad because she’s your MOH. Did you not know she was like this before your chose her?
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  • Samantha
    Devoted May 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I would tell her when she throws things in your face that she didn't have to do anything for you and its your wedding. Hopefully that would shut her up.

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  • Katelyn
    Dedicated October 2021
    Katelyn ·
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    I wouldn’t have her do anything else. Did she offer to help or did you ask? Also, she is MOH and should help with things, that’s part of her duty as a maid of honor… it’s YOUR wedding and you can do anything that YOU want. Take it form someone that kept changing things to make others happy and not myself..it’s NOT worth it. Saving money is nice, but not when you have to do things you don’t want to.
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