My MOH is my best friend of over 10 years and the obvious choice for my honor attendant. I’ve been engaged for over a year now, and I feel like she’s had an issue with something every step of the way.
She wanted to go ring shopping with my FH and his mom ended up having a family heirloom ring so he didn’t need to go shopping and told her this. Then he went to pick out a diamond for the setting with his mom and she got upset that he didn’t ask her to go with, even though they weren’t ring shopping.
She also isn’t friends with any of my other bridesmaids and has a negative past with one. When we all went dress shopping, MOH was being really distant and when I asked her about it she got defensive and said the other bridesmaid “was rude and rolled her eyes”. Then as we’ve been planning the bachelorette, she doesn’t like any of my ideas and at one point said she wouldn’t go if we did a particular activity. I’m also planning on getting mani-pedis with all the gals before my wedding and she refuses to get her nails done at my salon.Now, due to Covid, we are having a backyard ceremony and postponing our wedding until next year, and she says she is wearing joggers to our ceremony because “it’s just a backyard wedding” and she’s “just a guest”. I asked her to wear a dress as she will be in photos since she will have the ring and will sign the certificate. When they got their bridesmaid dresses, I was very lenient and let them pick whatever they wanted, I just picked the color. Am I justified in being annoyed about the joggers? It’s just disappointing that she fights me on everything. I feel conflicted because I really do love her like a sister and she has done a lot for me and spent a lot of money in the whole wedding process.