moh chose outside color theme

Did she already buy the dress? I would stand your ground. It is not wrong of you to want your MOH to pick a dress in your wedding colors.

I think she was rude, especially since you ADDED more colors to accommodate her. I would ask her to return it and find something in the color you chose. She can suck it up for one dress. You chose great colors.

Nope. She needs to return the dress. That's not how these things work.

I don't think there is anything wrong with you explaining to her that its not a color in your palette. I'd tell her you offered burgundy and navy as darker options and you'd like her to find a dress in one of those colors. Maybe if she loves the style dress she picked she can call and ask if it comes in other colors. She can only dictate so much, what she wears can only go so far. You've given her a lot of freedom but she should still respect your wishes.

That's simply not true. There is a dress she can find in the generous amount of colors you've provided. We keep saying that's their ONE job. Get the right dress and show up.

LMAO Maria... That's another thing I was going to ask. Does she not have other duties, like to help out with the anxiety and stress?

I would be upset and ticked off if one of my BM's did this & not much upsets me. She can either get what you gave to her as far as colors go, or come as a guest and wear whatever the heck she wants.

At the very least she should be tactful enough to not add to the anxiety and stress lol!

Yeah, I don't have BM's so she'll be the only one up there with me Jennifer ;o)

I don't think you're wrong to require her to wear a color you select. You have been very considerate offering her several colors to choose from and all of those colors are very common bridesmaid dress colors so she shouldn't have a hard time finding a suitable dress. This is literally the only thing required of her.

I don't think this is such a big deal personally- my MOH wore a dress that was not one of my colours but I gave her my blessing. We joked continually that she was not a napkin but a person and so could wear something she found flattering. I only had her in my bridal party. I don't really see why it's important that the wedding party wear the decor colours, personally, as long as they match/are colour coordinating with each other.

But you do have the right to request a specific colour- even a specific dress if you so choose. If that's what you want, then I would speak clearly.

I agree. It sounds to me like you were more than accommodating. I'd stand your ground, OP.

Not cool- at all! When her wedding day rolls around, she can wear whatever, what color, she wants. She can even have you wear whatever color she wants. But not this time.

Since you don't have any other bridesmaids, I can imagine this must be a difficult conversation to have with your MOH, and I'm sure you're concerned with her feelings. I agree with everyone else, stand your ground. Perhaps either call her up or text her and say something like,

"It's very important to me that you stand by my side on my wedding day, and are comfortable with the dress you wear as my MOH. It does mean a lot to me that you are on board with my theme colors and are willing to work with me to make this work."

I hope everything works out!!!

Yeah no, she doesn't just get to pick another random color. Being a BM or MOH sometimes means having to wear dresses you don't like. You gave her a lot of wiggle room, don't let her take advantage of you.