moh and social media

It's okay to feel however you feel. Not everyone posts. I didn't post anything about my own bridal shower. My MOH didn't post anything. Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable posting about your life event.

I don’t know why she’d show off that you’re getting married. I guess this would depend on her regular social media postings, but this wouldn’t bother me at all. Almost no one in my social circle posts pictures for things like showers/parties.

Is it moreso you're thinking you want her to show that she's really excited about your day and stuff by showing it on social media?

You’re allowed to feel a bit bummed, but remember, your wedding isn’t as important to other people as it is to you and your FS. She probably didn’t do it as a slight to you, especially since she did just spend time at a shower for you (which is much more than many other people get). Try not to put much stock into social media.

One of my bridesmaids posted a picture from the party and said she was super excited to be involved and so happy for me to be getting married!

It's okay but don't see on it. My friends never post about me and I always post about them. Some people just don't do it.

View Quoted Comment I don’t think it’s fair to compare what what friend does with another. If you do that, you’re likely to constantly be disappointed by people’s behavior.

I get that, and I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels this way haha. My MOH actually did post for my shower and for our wedding, but VERY few other people did. For our wedding (which we had 100 people at) the only people who posted anything on social media were two of my friends, one of husband’s friends, my uncle, my mom’s friend, best man, and MOH. It just felt a little underwhelming like I was expecting to be happily spammed with photos from our day but got much fewer than I expected. I mean, I post on social media almost every time I go to a wedding, a shower, etc. But also I work in marketing and part of my job is social media strategy and management haha so perhaps I’m into social media more than most people :p I guess different people are different with how frequently they post and what they post. I know I really shouldn’t let stuff like this bother me at all but... it still does 🤷🏻‍♀️ We’re only human. It’s normal to feel disappointed but just remember social media isn’t an accurate representation of life... just because she didn’t post doesn’t mean she isn’t excited!

View Quoted Comment Yay! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I do the same thing, I post about people to make them feel good, whether a birthday or event, i show it off. She posts about other people and events but nothing about my bridal shower. Do I let it go? Or say something little?

View Quoted Comment I definitely wouldn’t say anything. My guess would be she didn’t post because she didn’t like how she looked in any of the photos or something...... honestly it’s probably something silly like that lol, I think that’s a more likely reason than that she’s not excited for you!

If you want people to see the pictures/acknowledge you, you can just post. Don't let social media measure your or your friend's happiness for the wedding.

I deleted my Facebook for this exact reason a few years ago. I too started to feel the need to broadcast the good in my life and felt "left out" seeing the posts of others. I never even made an engagement announcement on the one site I'm on because the important people knew/are invited.

So I get how you're feeling, it always hurts my feelings a little when none of my friends make cute birthday collages to post on social media like I do for them / I see tons of other girls get. For my wedding, a few bridesmaids did post pictures of my shower and bachelorette (my MOH doesn't use social media) and it did make me feel special, so I definitely understand how not having a post made about you can feel, but I'll admit it is a really silly thing to feel sad about. It's just not some people's thing to make posts like that on social media, and if they don't like the way they look in the pictures they are in, they're less likely to post. There could be a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with you and your friendship, so I don't recommend saying anything

Perhaps your friend didn't post because she wanted to respect your right to privacy. Don't let this bother you. I'm sure she had good reason!

I definitely wouldn't post about someone's shower or life event (other than my own). These aren't my events or milestones so I don't feel it's my place to do it. Also I don't post pics of others unless I am absolutely sure they are ok with it. Someone could be in the pics who is not ok having their pics posted. I think you're over thinking social media.

You're allowed to feel how you feel, but I wouldnt look too deep into it. Some people just dont post a lot. I dont even have social media other than WW and a professional Twitter I use strictly for my classroom through the district hashtags. 🤣🤣 so I dont post that often. I wouldnt let it bum you out. Focus on planning and enjoying the moments as they come!

Maybe she doesn't want any friends you both have in common but are not invited to know!
Not posting on social media can be a blessing too.